Possible Stalker Situation

[Ditch]

Is this the post I was banned from?

[Seesm]

File a incident report with the police so if anything more happens there is a "trail" maybe even a restraining order if it continues...

You need to not be so scared to stand up for yourself and YOUR LADY!!

But he sounds like a creep.

And truly we all should see a picture of here just so we know if we too are stalking your wife... Juust kidding but I know I would like to see her...

Good luck on this all and be careful...

[sierratangofoxtrotunion]

Ug, I couldn't even read half of this thread. "He's making it up." "We need pixzors of the wife." "She's a flirt."

Guys, this stuff does actually happen. Something very similar did happen to my friend's sister. In that case, the guy also left notes and polariods, except not of his face, if you know what I mean. They called the cops, they literally told them to throw the notes and pictures away, that they wouldn't do anything. Eventually it came down to her brother being in the front yard when the dude drove by real slow, and he chased him through town at about 70 mph blowing red lights. Long story short, apparently it scared the guy and he never came back around any more.

BTW, I'm not advising something like that. There's already been more valid suggestions than what I can offer.

But this does indeed happen.

[sv_1]

If you are too scared to confront him face to face, call him on the phone. Your fellow club members must have his number. you don;t need a gun to resolve this...

[sv_1]

double post

[1911su16b870]

To the OP, Stalking is documented by repeated complaints filed with the PD and you and her documenting each and every instance. Suspect, Date, Time, Events occuring before, during, after etc...The more in the stalkers file, the more that can be done for you and your wife, restraining order, cause for CCW etc...Right now Situational Awareness should be on High/Condition Yellow-Red, Be mentally and physically prepared to deal with an assault, but do not provoke one. Get a Taser and Pepper Spray and make sure you and her carry them 24/7. Good luck to you guys!

[pullnshoot25]

If you are too scared to confront him face to face, call him on the phone. Your fellow club members must have his number. you don;t need a gun to resolve this...

A kind word and a gun goes much farther than just a kind word.

As a brother to 7 sisters, I can definitely see how this would be a problem. Guys can be aggressive in this manner and I stress this to all of my lady friends all the time.

[okimreloaded]

My wife is not a flirt and does not dress in an attention attracting fashion. I see how she interacts with other guys and she is not inappropriate. It bothers me that some of the people posting on here feel that girls must be doing something to get negative male attention. I see it that men are just horny idiots and some of them get creepy. I work with a bunch of girls and i've heard things men say to them without an provocation. One time a girl I work with thanked someone for coming in to do business and he started talking about how he wants to take her away and put her in a condo somewhere and have an affair with her. All she said was thanks for stopping in. He was joking - but old and dirty and creepy.

Anyway the way I ended up handling this so far was that my brother knows the stalker's girlfriend. In fact they kinda had a thing for a while. So I said, can you call her and just get some background info on the guy, like who he is? Well he told her the story and it turns the stalker had told his girlfriend that he had feelings for my wife prior to them dating. Which is extremely creepy that he would have "feelings" for someone who never spoke to him. Of course, he denied following my wife home but provided no answer for following her home the first time.

I also called over to people in the club he now belongs to, and was told that they would speak with him.

Just to be on the safe side I am going to file an incident report with the police and give them his name.

I also know some people who works some places that can get me his address and other info and I'm going to make a record of it so if it gets worse I know where to find him.

If it gets worse I'm going over to his house and going to have a chat with him.

[evidens83]

Nut up or shut up. This post sounds fake to me but who knows OP grow some balls and handle your business.

[tango5]

Let me start out with my wife is gorgeous. I've had to deal with aggressive men a few times, but in a period of three months things began to get of hand and we had several instances that frightened me. All three times my wife was chased/followed by strange men. 2 of the times I was with her the one time I wasn't is the reason for this post.

The other two times were pretty bad. We had two guys in a van circling the block taunting me and shouting things at my wife about how beautiful she was and asking if I was her boyfriend or husband. They circled the block we were on 3 times and the only reason they stopped is because we literally had to hide behind a shed.

shortly thereafter we were followed by a carload of young men, 5 of them who were all rolling down their windows and trying to get my wife's attention.

After this I bought a gun and learned how to use it.

About this time my wife was coming home from work and a guy who we DO NOT know, but associate with members of a club we belong to. He had actually been kicked out of the club and while allowed to attend club functions was not allowed by club policy to associate with members of the club. He ignored this rule and attempted to make contact with my wife several times, aside from club policy, my wife had no interest in talking to his man either way.

This guy saw her and began following her and my wife did not notice - as she was getting out of her car she saw the guy getting out of his car, parked in front of her house. taken a back - he tried to talk with her, she asked if he had been reinstated as a member of the club, he said that he was working on it but not yet a full member again. My wife made an excuse to leave and went in to the house.

About a year later we ran into him and it turns out he's dating a childhood friends sister that my brother keeps in contact with. we recognized him and I didn't mention the fact that he had followed my wife home in a very creepy way. He seemed agitated at my presence and would not make eye contact with me and refused to speak to me, instead staying off in the distance while his girlfriend spoke with my wife, brother and I.

I got a bad vibe but didn't think much of it. yesterday my wife was coming home from work and she saw his car in front of her. (we live in a small town) she tried to stay behind him, and as he changed lanes into the turn lane to do a u-turn she ended up right next to him at the stoplight. She continued straight ahead on the street after the light. She noticed he exited his u-turn and began following her, he attempted to pull up on her drivers side and she changed lanes into the far lane and turned quickly down the street we live on.

I'm concerned because:
1) he followed her home previously
2) he would not look me in the eye and seemed agitated with my presence when my wife was there
3) we do not know him at all and have never had a conversation with him or any interaction or familiarity with him that would justify following someone to their house in an attempt to have a conversation with him.

This may have been a coincidence but given that he has done it prior I cannot give him the benefit of the doubt.

My question is: How can I legally protect my wife?

I know open carry is very sketchy - but I feel that the if she were to open carry in her vehicle only she is less likely to threaten the public or cause worry to any LEOS unless pulled over. I believe this to be a good option because if he were to attempt to kidnap her it would most likely be on her way to or from work, either getting into or out of her vehicle. If she was aware of his presence, (we working on awareness) then I would feel better knowing she was armed.

I have considered a taser because it's legal to carry but for 400 bucks it kind of makes me just want to buy a glock. Are there any competitors to taser that offer a civilian product that is similar?

What are your thoughts on KIMBER's guardian angel?

I highly doubt that she would be approved for a ccw but is there any opinions on women vs men approval rates for ccw applications? What are the legal ramifications for non permitted ccw w/o the intent to commit a crime?

I know his first name and have contacted some people to find out more about him, including his last name - and I believe that it is reasonable that I could obtain his address:

should I file a complaint with the police department? I know that I could find him at the club meetings, We now attend a different chapter of the same club but I do have access to the one he attends. Should I try to contact him and be direct?

Has anyone else had issues with a stalker?

Something sounds odd about this story, and your wife doesnt live in the same house with you? She has her own house?? What city is this in? And yes you should file a complaint with the police. And stop going to these club functions that lets non members hang out with members even though the policy states that non members cant hang out with members. ***** just sounds weird....

[evidens83]

Good observation Tango5.

[dangerouspower]

1. Ugly her up a little
2. Have her make sure the doors are locked and the windows are up. (the car is the best weapon)

UGLY HER UP A LITTLE... LOL!!

[joepamjohn]

My wife is not a flirt and does not dress in an attention attracting fashion. I see how she interacts with other guys and she is not inappropriate. It bothers me that some of the people posting on here feel that girls must be doing something to get negative male attention. I see it that men are just horny idiots and some of them get creepy. I work with a bunch of girls and i've heard things men say to them without an provocation. One time a girl I work with thanked someone for coming in to do business and he started talking about how he wants to take her away and put her in a condo somewhere and have an affair with her. All she said was thanks for stopping in. He was joking - but old and dirty and creepy.

Many guys just don't know how to take the intentions of any woman when they interact. Add in, (as in your wifes case) that she is also attractive, add homones, then these bozos revert back to all of the brain washing that they have had where they think a smile and a thank you means I really want to bang you.

[cgseanp1]

Sorry to hear about your situation..
Now, what the hay kind of "club" are you in? What kind of club would allow somebody in (stalker guy) but say he is forbidden to associate with anyone else in the club? Sounds pretty dang weird to me.

[rtadlock]

also know some people who works some places that can get me his address and other info and I'm going to make a record of it so if it gets worse I know where to find him.

If it gets worse I'm going over to his house and going to have a chat with him.

I wouldnt go to his house it will just be seen as you looking for trouble if anything happens. Make a police report and if approches you again and you feel threatned which it seems like you do kick low, punch high. Very few people even well trained people can stop a full on kick to the groin when theyre not expecting it. If they do then there hand is down and the "punch high" will connect. Keep Punching.

+1 for Krav Maga for you and your wife.

Dont know about the gun, if your not willing to confront him while hes coming up to your wife then I doubt you would shoot him. If your not going to shoot him then dont pull a gun and I dont think it quite warrants shooting him yet.