Possible Stalker Situation

[Cokebottle]

Hope you dont mind.. but im gunna do that in about 20 years

NP... I stole it from another forum

[glbtrottr]

Just send your wife over anytime to have a chat on personal security.

[trinydex]

i'm surprised at the first few responses hahaha this sounds like a typical creepy guy thing. the problem with this is it could fade away harmlessly or it could get REAL ****ed up.

other problems include, the man can't be around 24/7 and eventually if something does happen that lack of ability will make major guilt and also destroy relationships surrounding the incident.

i'd say definitely confront first. that is a huge deterrant, if you show people you smell what's stinkin' already their decision making process will change. it doesn't mean they won't try to hurt you still but you have to play all the cards you got. get the legal stuff on record right away. file police reports, suspicious person, prowling or whatever. if you don't document you have less of a leg to stand on when time comes to investigate.

change her mental state. make her empowered to defend herself, teach her stuff, get her to classes, find her girl friends (strength in numbers) all that kinda stuff. if you can bring that into her life it's just as good as you being by her side. it's unforunate but unless you're a millionaire you can't afford to stay around her all day or hire someone to.

[okimreloaded]

It's not a club, it's religious organization - and the reason I didn't state that was because I'm not here to discuss religious ideals -

On manning up, I had this bum ask to use my cell phone and I told him that I was DEFINITELY not going to let that happen and surprisingly he backed off. He first hit me up for change. Usually I puss out and give in but I told this guy to EFF OFF and he did. It was great. I'm very laid back and not assertive enough.

I think if this guy knew where I lived I'd have seen him again - so I'm thinking he's a stalker of opportunity. When he sees my wife around town he approaches. Thing is - she's is def not cheating. We're together ALL the time unless she's at work. She texts me when she gets to work, texts me when she gets home and texts me on her lunch and I get home 15 minutes after her and she's always here. She's never been the type to cheat and isn't. Like is it even a possibility in this situation, hands down, I guarantee you all it isn't. We share literally everything, bank accounts, email accounts, passwords, cell phone plans - the only thing off limits is my notebook, which she understands is private and she doesn't care. She has nothing at all that she's ever told me is private and i've never had a reason to suspect anything was a miss in our relationship.

[okimreloaded]

to answer another question, i'm about 5'11 last trip to the gym I weighed 192 and I work in an office. I'm slim built, but soft at the middle. Not a giant, and def not a fighter, which is why I own a handgun, which is great - if someone is trying to kill me in my house.

[jmf_tracy]

to answer another question, i'm about 5'11 last trip to the gym I weighed 192 and I work in an office. I'm slim built, but soft at the middle. Not a giant, and def not a fighter, which is why I own a handgun, which is great - if someone is trying to kill me in my house.

you can legally carry a folding knife. i recommend emerson knives.

[justin_5585]

to answer another question, i'm about 5'11 last trip to the gym I weighed 192 and I work in an office. I'm slim built, but soft at the middle. Not a giant, and def not a fighter, which is why I own a handgun, which is great - if someone is trying to kill me in my house.

So you're not a little guy. I'm only 6 foot and the same weight. I always advise conversation before confrontation, but if it comes to that you can hold your own. The best way to learn how to fight is to, well, fight. I grew up scrapping with buddies, and we still are always submission wrestling at the firehouse, etc. I'm not saying go pick fights and commit felonies, but if you have guy friends, don't be afraid to challeng them to some wrestiling, submission tests, slap boxing, or real boxing.

Finally, remember this, if it comes to a fight, hit hard, and don't stop after you punch. If someone goes down, you better be on top of them, cockyness and recovery time will get you in trouble.

[justin_5585]

It's not a club, it's religious organization - and the reason I didn't state that was because I'm not here to discuss religious ideals -

Don't worry about that. To quote the Doobie Brothers, "Jesus is just alright with me"

[duane_black]

to answer another question, i'm about 5'11 last trip to the gym I weighed 192 and I work in an office. I'm slim built, but soft at the middle. Not a giant, and def not a fighter, which is why I own a handgun, which is great - if someone is trying to kill me in my house.

Owning a handgun doesn't make you a fighter. It can level the playing field though.

I honestly think you need to get back in the gym, take some self defense classes and most importantly, change your mindset. If someone is messing with my family, it is on. I don't care who it is. They could be the baddest human being walking, they are in trouble.

I am happy you asserted yourself to the bum but this is about your family. I don't know about you but I don't have much in my life that's truly important other than my wife and child. If some guy was stalking either of them, I would do whatever I had to in order to stop it.

What if you were put into a situation in public to where you would have to protect your child, how would you do it ?

Do you have any friends that know how to handle themselves ? They don't need to be Ken Shamrock in order to get some great hands on experience. If nothing else it could help build confidence.

[JaMail]

im liking the suggestion about telling him to meet you at the range, you fill the target and tell him to keep it as a souvenir.. it will either escalate it if hes psycho, or it will back him off quick, all depends on what kind of person he is..

[RogueSniper]

The problem is the OP has only met this guy face to face once or twice. Besides, we don't know if the OP is proficient in firearms. For all we know OP can't hit paper? (No offense, we don't know you that well.) That's another thing, if it comes down to it, can you commit to using that Glock on a living soul? That's something I trained in CCW and Tactical course and it's a personal issue that must be dealt with.

Preparedness is important. Know what to do before it happens. Run through the possible scenarios in your mind and practice it in your living room. Involve your wife. It has to be second nature. Ie. He's following you in the car; He's walking toward you; You see him across the street; He's at the door; HE IN THE HOUSE.

You HAVE to get someone else involved - Police, PI, Personal Defensive Trainer, Neighbors (you can trust), your/hers/both friends and family (you haven't mentioned family members like parents, siblings, cousins, uncle/aunts). Someone mentioned a dog? Forget the dog unless you have one trained and you know how to unleash it. Otherwise that dog is just a pet.

I understand the church thing. I hate to say it, but religious people can be most twisted group of folks ever - pious/loving/caring/jealous/coveting/backstabbing ... Just because you're religious doesn't exclude you from darkest of human personality traits. I speak from experience from my church when I lived in Sacramento - had a lot of weird, messed up friends. One of the girls was stalking her ex-, one guy actually date-raped and sodomized a girl from the congregation, someone stole the weekly offering, ... (I think I was the only gun nut there, though).

[Neil McCauley]

And, any pics of the wife?

haha

[Fate]

132 posts and no one tells the poor guy that once she gets a restraining order on the guy, she is legally JUSTIFIED in concealed (or open) carry without a license.

File police reports and get the paper!

12031. (a) (1) A person is guilty of carrying a loaded firearm when
he or she carries a loaded firearm on his or her person or in a
vehicle while in any public place or on any public street in an
incorporated city or in any public place or on any public street in a
prohibited area of unincorporated territory.


(j) (2) A violation of this section is justifiable when a person who
possesses a firearm reasonably believes that he or she is in grave
danger because of circumstances forming the basis of a current
restraining order issued by a court against another person or persons
who has or have been found to pose a threat to his or her life or
safety. This paragraph may not apply when the circumstances involve a
mutual restraining order issued pursuant to Division 10 (commencing
with Section 6200) of the Family Code absent a factual finding of a
specific threat to the person's life or safety. It is not the intent
of the Legislature to limit, restrict, or narrow the application of
current statutory or judicial authority to apply this or other
justifications to defendants charged with violating Section 12025 or
of committing other similar offenses.
Upon trial for violating this section, the trier of fact shall
determine whether the defendant was acting out of a reasonable belief
that he or she was in grave danger.

[gn3hz3ku1*]

no the real prob is the OP didnt do anything about it and made an internet post.

id have handled it already

[greasemonkey]

I was not aware of 12031(j)(2), thank you Fate.