Need help explaining guns to girlfriend

[Subotai]

She's talked about marriage and the way she wants to do home life is a multi-family household in which her parents have their own apartment out back or two master bedrooms. She said they wouldn't want to have firearms in the house at all. I get along well enough with her parents, but this has the potential to cause a lot of trouble.

Wow, she wants you to be her dandy. Then when she gets sick of you, the dandy, she'll go find some "real man" to bang on the side cause you ain't manly if you accept this.

In other words, it's a trap!

Two master bedrooms, wtf!

[antiseen]

Lol wants the parents out back.

Good luck OP. Time to get checked for color blindness cause I doubt your ability to recognize a red flag.

Seriously. Who wants to live with their in laws? Living 10 ft away still counts.

[Tommy C]

Well, what happened, OP?

[RustyIron]

Well, what happened, OP?

His girlfriend revoked his internet privileges.

[NorCalFocus]

OP, here's the plain and simple truth. Grow a pair or this is going to happen to you over and over in the future. Maybe not on guns, but with anything any women in your life doesn't like.

Marriage (or any serious relationship) should not be a compromise. If your having to compromise your beliefs and or wants to be with someone, why would you want to be with that person.

[robodeer]

Seems like most of the girls in CA are pretty anti. Finding one that's pro is the exception to the norm. The ones that are pro seem to be more laid back/easy going as well. Agreed with those that say that she'll never change.

[ZirconJohn]

Well, she doesn't want to take that class. She said it boils down to "why do you feel the need to carry a gun" with the implication that there is no legitimate reason or need. She does understand my brother doing so because he's a LEO, but not me. When we talked about this, she said that she talked to my brother and his wife about this stuff. According to her, my brother was calm and sensible, but told her that several of her objections were BS. I haven't asked my brother yet about his opinions. Since I often communicate best in writing, she agreed to accept an essay from me explaining why I carry a gun.

Some further complications. She's talked about marriage and the way she wants to do home life is a multi-family household in which her parents have their own apartment out back or two master bedrooms. She said they wouldn't want to have firearms in the house at all. I get along well enough with her parents, but this has the potential to cause a lot of trouble.

At this point I'm thinking of writing that essay, adding some see-also points to view on the web, and concluding it with "This is me. My ownership, use, and wearing of firearms is not negotiable. You can either accept that or we're done". I'm already refreshing my online dating website accounts.

Are there any single women in the northwest corner of the state of Washington reading this message?

You gonna write your GF an essay ??? SERIOUSLY...!?!

Frotz ... look, I'm 59 y/o and I have many-many-many years of experience in this what you are going through ... here is an essay I already wrote for you.

Consider this essay a gift from me to you, and one day you may want to return a favor to me ... but instead, just simply do the same for another friend. This is what friends do for friends when their friend cannot see because they are blinded by the female who-who and the dreaded estrogen mind meld.

Here is your essay ... just simply copy/paste, print and turn it in to your GF

Dear *insert GF name here*

Here now is my essay in it's entirety, please take time to read.

You are a good person, you are attractive and you are intelligent.

I shall be leaving you now.

Thank you for your time, you will be missed.

Bye,

*insert your name here*

[Garv]

Dear *insert GF name here*

Here now is my essay in it's entirety, please take time to read.
You are a good person, you are attractive and you are intelligent.
I shall be leaving you now.
Thank you for your time, you will be missed.

Bye,

*insert your name here*

PS:
Make sure you take your parents with you.

[ZirconJohn]

^^^

[MJB]

OMG
ROTFLMAO

OP did you get dropped on your head growing up? I know she did.......

[Doctor Suarez]

While overall I think the OP should run from this girl, that has more to do with the in-laws fantasy and the extreme nature of her attitude. My buddy decided he wanted a gun after he was already married, she had him write an essay, she decided he was serious, and she relented. She hasn't taken an interest, but she lets him do his thing so long as he keeps it safe and on-budget.

[geoint]

I just started dating an awesome woman. Yesterday I had a gun on me (in a place where its totally legal for me to do so, of course ) and she found it while we were chillin. Naturally she was curious but she didnt get all foaming at the mouth crazy. Shes actually been hinting that she'd love for me to take her shooting for a few dates now. I dont know if shes a keeper, but shes definitely worth pursuing for now

[Corsair415]

Some further complications. She's talked about marriage and the way she wants to do home life is a multi-family household in which her parents have their own apartment out back or two master bedrooms. She said they wouldn't want to have firearms in the house at all. I get along well enough with her parents, but this has the potential to cause a lot of trouble.

If her parents are on your property then tell her they follow your rules and don't get a vote on household issues. Hell, require that the become proficient in firearms before they are allowed to even talk about moving in.

[The War Wagon]

Practice your Austrian accent...

[Garv]

OP:

If you are not going to take the advice given, please do one thing for yourself:

Establish the rules before you get married!
(Or have any children)

If you get lucky, maybe she will pitch enough of a fit for you to make a rational decision.

If you are really lucky, maybe she will accept your decisions.

BTW most rules that are good for the male do not last past the ring.