How to make her understand.

[Bird of Fire]

Wait - where are the pics of the wife? WTF.

[joepamjohn]

It's childish to spend money on ammo and guns when you have real debts and interest to worry about. Pay off the other **** then spend your money on fun things, like guns.

I'm sure you'd be upset if she had credit car bills and a car payment but instead spent hundreds a month on new shoes.

Screw that. That is way too responsible. Get rid of her, run up the debt on high interest credit cards buying guns and ammo you obviously can't afford then sell them all here in the FS forum at half price because you will be homeless if you can't pay the rent.

I mean why be responsible? Isn't the American way to live well beyond your means? Imagine that, a woman that wants to save money, plan for the future and pay off debt. You better get rid of her as soon as possible, it may be contagious.

[rkt88edmo]

You have debt.

That debt costs your interest.

How much interest are you paying each month?

Add that amount to everything you buy.

Good deals are usually bad deals when you factor in the interest you pay on your other outstanding debts.


That being said, you both need to sit down and talk about YOUR priorities and HER priorities and agree on what is the most important for BOTH of you.

If it were me, I would
0- Establish a spending plan so that you don't increase your debt and have a plan to have money to save.
1- save up a $1k emergency fund
2- get working on killing off the debt (lots of websites out there on this, Dave Ramsey is popular)
3-increase emergency fund over time while paying off debt ($100 a month, until you get to 3 months of living expenses)
4- finish paying off debt
5- shoot a lot more because you don't have to make any debt payments & buy your special lady friend chocolate and flowers.

How would you feel if everytime you bought ammo she bought a pair of shoes, and everytime you bought a gun she bought a $1k purse?

So my wife and I get into heated arguments over my purchase of items such as ammo,gun accessories,new guns,etc. Even browsing online websites that cater to addicts like myself and not to mention calguns.net raises an eyebrow from her. My thing is besides being a gun enthusiast and supporter of our Constitutional rights,I believe in stocking up on firearms and ammo for the worst case scenario. She argues until we have everything paid off,credit cards,motorcycle,etc. that I shouldn't spend on ANYTHING gun related. NOTHING! NO AMMO,NOTHING! Well,first how am I suppose to practice with NO AMMO! Second,I make pretty good $,stuff is getting taken care off,and no matter what,**** always comes up! I have to hide my activities because I don't want to piss her off,but of course when she finds out about something new or a shipment coming in,we get into arguments about it! Any advice? Maybe a women's perspective?

[joepamjohn]

You have debt.

That debt costs your interest.

How much interest are you paying each month?

Add that amount to everything you buy.

Good deals are usually bad deals when you factor in the interest you pay on your other outstanding debts.


That being said, you both need to sit down and talk about YOUR priorities and HER priorities and agree on what is the most important for BOTH of you.

If it were me, I would
0- Establish a spending plan so that you don't increase your debt and have a plan to have money to save.
1- save up a $1k emergency fund
2- get working on killing off the debt (lots of websites out there on this, Dave Ramsey is popular)
3-increase emergency fund over time while paying off debt ($100 a month, until you get to 3 months of living expenses)
4- finish paying off debt
5- shoot a lot more because you don't have to make any debt payments & buy your special lady friend chocolate and flowers.

How would you feel if everytime you bought ammo she bought a pair of shoes, and everytime you bought a gun she bought a $1k purse?

Well said! That's why he's a Moderator.