How to make her understand.

[j1133s]

Thirdly,thinking deeper on this issue,it may or may not be all about money. Then again this is an all too common factor in marriages falling apart. I think setting up some kind of structured spending discipline is really necessary. Taking her out more often and spending some $ wouldn't hurt either! It's just hard because we have a 5 month old. Either way,I strongly believe we should have our own weekly/monthly spending money(that neither should question what we decide to spent it on). In conclusion,I won't back down when it comes to my guns!

Money is a big issue in a lot of cases. You can easily make the case that guns hold their values really well, heck, my guns are holding out way better than even my house right now.

Just remember that a marriage, actually living with another person, is about compromises and mutual respect. Remember to try to see things her way regard to gun/ammo costs and try to meet her half way.

You mentioned having weekly/monthly private spending money. That's a very good idea.

Since you've got a kid, I guess I should take back my initial recommendation on solving your problem.

[Bird of Fire]

Yeah the 5 month old plays into this.

Definitely sit her down and go over it and just have a nice civil discussion with her over it and what she wants. Hey maybe take a small hit out of shooting fund to get things paid off quicker and then she'll be happy.

If that doesn't work....might want to reconsider post #4

[Steyrlp10]

Yeah,I guess we don't realize that as we should. Us men,right? Not to downplay your experience but 2 out of the 5 times in the last 6 months,my wife has gone with me to the range,twice by myself,and once with friends.

BTW,I don't go out much with the exception of work,sometimes gym,and when I stay home for my time off play games and stuff. I don't hit the bars with friends,and usually my wife are always together! But yeah,a lot of the stuff you write does resonate with what my wife feels. I'll start by taking her to get a pedicure today =)

And don't forget to tell her that she's hot!

[bsim]

so is she now the responsible one, taking care of the baby while your still living like you're single? Does she get to go out without the baby? Does she get hobby time?

Just trying to look at things from her perspective.

Maybe it's not just money, it's perceived responsibility too.

[MasterYong]

Woman in my life that doesn't like guns? GTFO. My way or the highway. My current GF knows this, and if she's not the last then the next GF will know as well.

This is what I like. This is what I do. Don't like it? Then you don't like me. All of me. My hobbies, likes, dislikes, and everything in between.

How folks put up with "significant others" that don't share their interests is beyond me. My GF shoots (with some guns better than I do), goes fishing, hiking, hunting, motorcycling, and everything else I'm interested in.

I'm not bragging... I guess I'm just saying I don't understand all these threads that get started by gun nuts that say their wife doesn't like guns.....

[andalusi]

So my wife and I get into heated arguments over my purchase of items such as ammo,gun accessories,new guns,etc. Even browsing online websites that cater to addicts like myself and not to mention calguns.net raises an eyebrow from her. My thing is besides being a gun enthusiast and supporter of our Constitutional rights,I believe in stocking up on firearms and ammo for the worst case scenario. She argues until we have everything paid off,credit cards,motorcycle,etc. that I shouldn't spend on ANYTHING gun related. NOTHING! NO AMMO,NOTHING! Well,first how am I suppose to practice with NO AMMO! Second,I make pretty good $,stuff is getting taken care off,and no matter what,**** always comes up! I have to hide my activities because I don't want to piss her off,but of course when she finds out about something new or a shipment coming in,we get into arguments about it! Any advice? Maybe a women's perspective?

She has a point as concerns your buying new firearms and accessories on a regular basis. I say this as someone who would buy a new gun a month if I could afford it (more than one per month, actually, given how many great C&R deals there are out there!), too. You don't live in Mad Max's world, so there's really no *need* for a personal armory of several dozen firearms.

You two should try to work out a compromise. Maybe something like paying off a credit card or making a couple of extra motorcycle payments means no guff when you decide to buy a new lower and parts for a build project, for example.

About the ammo, though.... As long as you guys are paying all your bills, sock away enough into savings, and each have money left for just fun stuff, though, I totally am with you on the ammunition. Not being able to shoot the guns you own makes them extremely pricey paperweights, you know?

Edited to add: Just caught up and realized you have a pretty recent addition to the family! That changes things. First, congratulations! Second, cut your wife some slack---actually, cut her a few kilometers of slack!---and don't force the issue. Seriously, I wouldn't do more than budget for range time and practice ammo for a while. And if you honestly have it to spare, then maybe sock away a little bit into a "when things get back to normal and I can buy a gun or cool accessory without starting WWIII in my house" fund.

[dark_ninja]

so is she now the responsible one, taking care of the baby while your still living like you're single? Does she get to go out without the baby? Does she get hobby time?

Just trying to look at things from her perspective.

Maybe it's not just money, it's perceived responsibility too.

FYI,I'm not living like I'm still single. I take care of our baby as much as she does. I don't go out on my own,and we try to go out together withought our child when we could get a babysitter. Sad to say,but a hobby of ours was to ride our motorcycles when we first started dating,actually thats how we met. After she became pregnant,that all changed,thats when my interest in guns came to play again... the only things I know she may like are going to the beach,riding, and perhaps dancing( and I don't like dancing!)

[dark_ninja]

Woman in my life that doesn't like guns? GTFO. My way or the highway. My current GF knows this, and if she's not the last then the next GF will know as well.

This is what I like. This is what I do. Don't like it? Then you don't like me. All of me. My hobbies, likes, dislikes, and everything in between.

How folks put up with "significant others" that don't share their interests is beyond me. My GF shoots (with some guns better than I do), goes fishing, hiking, hunting, motorcycling, and everything else I'm interested in.

I'm not bragging... I guess I'm just saying I don't understand all these threads that get started by gun nuts that say their wife doesn't like guns.....

My wife likes shooting,she just doesn't understand my interest/philosophy in firearms.

[PatriotnMore]

FYI,I'm not living like I'm still single. I take care of our baby as much as she does. I don't go out on my own,and we try to go out together withought our child when we could get a babysitter. Sad to say,but a hobby of ours was to ride our motorcycles when we first started dating,actually thats how we met. After she became pregnant,that all changed,thats when my interest in guns came to play again... the only things I know she may like are going to the beach,riding, and perhaps dancing( and I don't like dancing!)

Perhaps you could learn to like it. This could be the glue that binds, maybe take salsa or ballroom together in a class, could be the date night.

[Zachs300zx]

It wasn't too hard to get my point across when I started comparing guns and ammo to her shoes and purses... Those damn things are expensive and don't even work well as weapons.

Once that stopped working I had to take a second job. Notice my link below. I just tell her everything new I buy is a "business expense"

[CGK60]

You mean you didn't tell her you bought all the guns for her?

[MasterYong]

She has a point as concerns your buying new firearms and accessories on a regular basis. I say this as someone who would buy a new gun a month if I could afford it (more than one per month, actually, given how many great C&R deals there are out there!), too. You don't live in Mad Max's world, so there's really no *need* for a personal armory of several dozen firearms.

You two should try to work out a compromise. Maybe something like paying off a credit card or making a couple of extra motorcycle payments means no guff when you decide to buy a new lower and parts for a build project, for example.

About the ammo, though.... As long as you guys are paying all your bills, sock away enough into savings, and each have money left for just fun stuff, though, I totally am with you on the ammunition. Not being able to shoot the guns you own makes them extremely pricey paperweights, you know?

Edited to add: Just caught up and realized you have a pretty recent addition to the family! That changes things. First, congratulations! Second, cut your wife some slack---actually, cut her a few kilometers of slack!---and don't force the issue. Seriously, I wouldn't do more than budget for range time and practice ammo for a while. And if you honestly have it to spare, then maybe sock away a little bit into a "when things get back to normal and I can buy a gun or cool accessory without starting WWIII in my house" fund.

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[joepamjohn]

So you wife is concerned about lowering or getting rid of all debt and you are upset? WTF? Get a grip. You should be happy she is concerned about the "health" of your family.

Based on you original post, my guess is that you do your buying and shooting in excess causing her to have issues??????? I think there may be more to the story here. Have her post her side of the story and then we can really see the whole picture.

[Desert_Rat]

My wife started nagging Me and I told Her if she did not quit,She wouldn't see Me for a week.Sure enough it was 7 days to the day when the swelling went down enough for Her to see.

[WILDMAN442]

So my wife and I get into heated arguments over my purchase of items such as ammo,gun accessories,new guns,etc. Even browsing online websites that cater to addicts like myself and not to mention calguns.net raises an eyebrow from her. My thing is besides being a gun enthusiast and supporter of our Constitutional rights,I believe in stocking up on firearms and ammo for the worst case scenario. She argues until we have everything paid off,credit cards,motorcycle,etc. that I shouldn't spend on ANYTHING gun related. NOTHING! NO AMMO,NOTHING! Well,first how am I suppose to practice with NO AMMO! Second,I make pretty good $,stuff is getting taken care off,and no matter what,**** always comes up! I have to hide my activities because I don't want to piss her off,but of course when she finds out about something new or a shipment coming in,we get into arguments about it! Any advice? Maybe a women's perspective?

I been married almost a year now. My wife doesnt share a lot of ther same hobbies that I do. I ride dirt bikes and I have guns among other things.

I try my best to make sure that when she mentions that she likes soomehting or needs or wants something, I try to get it for her. We both work hard for our money and we like to buy nice things for each other...

Moral of the story, Just take care of your wife before yourself. Shes first before everything, guns motorcycles whatever.

Im sure eventually she will come around and not make such a big fuss

Justin