What is "the wife" ?

[Big Jake]

I NEVER understood this terminology. It makes her sound like a possession or inanimate object. 'The gun' OK. 'The car' OK...but not the 'The wife'. Very degrading.

What would AJ, Stanley, and Faith think?


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[Mafia Princess]

What would AJ, Stanley, and Faith think?


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Why, they would agree with me of course. They know what's good for them -they catch on a little quicker than some.

[Big Jake]

Why, they would agree with me of course. They know what's good for them -they catch on a little quicker than some.

I'll need to ask them!


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[Tripper]

Truly should be 'my wife'!!

She the wife of my life, so it is sort of possessive but not a possession

[Mafia Princess]

I'll need to ask them!


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Yeah, you go right ahead Big Jake. Maybe you'll learn a thing or two. :P

[BonnieB]

Who in hell are AJ Stanley and Faith?

[BadKitty]

Who in hell are AJ Stanley and Faith?

I think that two members are having personal/private conversations in the public threads?

I asked earlier of they were related or something and my post was deleted.

BK

[johnthomas]

I refer to my bride of 39 years as, well, my bride.

So, I can't answer your question.

My wife and I just celebrated our 39th on 21 June.
OP, It denotes ownership not partnership. My wife, my other half, my best friend and I are partners through this journey together. It is a shared journey of ups and downs, good and bad, success and failure. We get through this as partners.

[Mafia Princess]

My wife and I just celebrated our 39th on 21 June.
OP, It denotes ownership not partnership. My wife, my other half, my best friend and I are partners through this journey together. It is a shared journey of ups and downs, good and bad, success and failure. We get through this as partners.

Bravo!!

[smird]

I always call mine "The Boss"

[Mafia Princess]

I always call mine "The Boss"

Even better!!

[DBoulant]

Oh, it's still alive and kicking.

BonnieB
I bet she doesn't. And you probably don't want to know what she calls you, when you aren't listening...

She does, I'll explain below and I'm a man, I'm never listening. As long as I'm not refered to as "The Ex" I'm cool.


gotta break this one up a bit for clarity

well, given BonnieB started this thread in the LADIES FORUM i'm betting she was really looking for the opinions of other female calgunners...

Possibly, but subforum titles aside she wasn't gender specific in the question. And to get a good answer about this it's good to pull from the ones guilty of using the terminology. "The wife" has passed my lips many times (no innudendo) tt's not intentionally derogatory, or objectifying.

most women do not like the "c" words, especially when it is directed at them. if his wife is fine with it, she is fine with it. that's between them. personally, i'm hoping he only does this in the throes of passionate night dancing between the sheets.

That's why I started using the term. Because she didn't like when she was called it at work on a daily basis. Through intentional desensitization, it became a cute pet name usually prefixed with "My cuddly little...", " when she's down on her self (or vice versa) "Shut yer *c-word* mouth" which, again, isn't an insult but rather a buzzword we've established as a bit of a "snap out of it/cheer up/derail that train of thought" type of thing.

A bit of a background on 'The Wife'
She's a LEO who has survived crap childhood, a previous abusive relationship, and is a Ginger. Survivor of, Endometriosis, Cancer, Whipple and Chiari operations and two size 0 friends in High School.
She also just turned 30.

If words actually had power, there isn't a word in any language that can do anything to her that life already hasn't. So we've stripped words of rank and pay. It removed any emotion attached to the word when used as an insult which is arguably a benefit to any LEO.

"night dancing" I'm stealing that one.

In the throes of passion, I usually can't formulate words. That'd be akin to Mozart trying to compose a symphony while racing the Paris-Dakar Rally.

[BonnieB]

Words DO matter.

Margaret Thatcher said, and she was undoubtably right: Watch your thoughts for they become words. Watch your words for they become actions. Watch your actions for they become... habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny! What we think, we become.

When the Women's Movement started in the 70's, and I was there, one of the first things we did was raise hell over how people referred to woman. Because words influence how people think. We refused to be chicks, birds, dollies, C's, girls, gals, pretty-little-thangs, pretty much anything but 'women'. An exception was women under 18, who could legitimately be called 'girls'. Once the culture changed enough to stop making a woman a second class citizen, unable to buy a house or a car by herself, things eased up. But the culture changed because we INSISTED on respect.

This was meant to be fairly light hearted discussion. But you're pushing your luck, Boulant. Go home, your mommy is calling you....

[Ladyrr]

so Im guilty, I call my SO "the hubs" or "the Hubby"

[minichnk]

i call mine "the wallet" or " I forgot my purse"