What is "the wife" ?

[loophole]

What's a good 25th husband to wife gift

You're her 25th husband? She must already have a "gift" that can't be outdone!!!

[Tripper]

You're her 25th husband? She must already have a "gift" that can't be outdone!!!

ROFL

[movie zombie]

guns/ammo/jewelry.....hubby doesn't get in my way on any of those.
and he didn't bat an eye when I saw some earrings found at Pompeii and said I must have that. I bought the 10mm south sea pearls and the design is now being implemented by a local artisan in 22k gold. i'll consider it our 10 year anniversary present. not romantic you say? is to me. wish fulfillment is different for everyone.

[savannah]

I can understand the first part about cleaning tools, but I absolutely will never buy a woman jewely because it goes against my moral code and my personal philosophy. Not to mention, if you buy a woman jewelry there is no end in sight, it would be like buying an addict heroin, he will always expect more, no end in sight...

A worthless rock that some con-man found on the ground and was able to convince the women of the world that it is worth 4 months salary and if a man won't buy it for her he's a snake, I want no part of that.

If you know the history of De Beers and what they did to the Boers in South Africa, you'll never look at diamonds the same way. Keep in mind that diamonds are not even rare, there are millions upon millions of them, De Beers and other companies simply warehouse them in vaults, keeping them off the market, to create artificial shortages.


If you read the Scriptures of the Old Testament and the Letters of Paul, it is clear that jewelry is simply a vanity. It is a way for a woman to broadcast to society, "look at how much the man I am with spends on me." I don't want any part of that lifestyle.


With that said, there's nothing wrong with a particularly expensive gift, but I'd prefer it be personal and meaningful. If you know your wife of 15 years thoroughly enjoyed a particular book as a child and it was her absolute favorite book, it might be worth considering finding a first edition of said book, even if you have to hit up a number of book dealers and find one who has a book that old. I have a number of books that are 100+ years old and some that are around 150+ years old. If she really enjoyed a board-game that has been out of production since the 1970s, I wouldn't object to spending the time to track down an original first production run of the game.

But jewelry, never!

I never look at jewelry as a way to broadcast anything to society. That is just absurd. Nice jewelry is just nice jewelry and it doesn't have to be a big rock to make it good or thoughtful. I love the fact that my husband has taken time to find something he thinks I might like. Personally, I like dainty jewelry.

Once again, we are all different. If your wife loves an old board game or a book, so be it. Get it for her. However, I don't think it makes a woman vain nor a social climber because she likes jewelry. No need to thump people over the head with a bible because they wear jewelry.

[Tripper]

After many years, it gets hard to find that special gift

[movie zombie]

so it does, Tripper, so it does.
what does she talk about, dream about, point out in movies/books/magazines? i'm betting there is something she has hinted at. however, I have to say that I learned to say, "I like it but its not something I want" because my hubby thinks if I like something I want it. not true!!!!!!!!!

[Tripper]

Yes

[Tripper]

I'm actually thinking Hawaii

[Tripper]

She doesn't hint at things
If she wants something it usually gets bought

[vintagearms]

i say "hey woman" so this does not apply to me.

I do that with my wife too. She kinda likes it.

[KABA556]

Once again, we are all different. If your wife loves an old board game or a book, so be it. Get it for her. However, I don't think it makes a woman vain nor a social climber because she likes jewelry. No need to thump people over the head with a bible because they wear jewelry.

Believe me, if I wanted to "thump" you over the head, I would have quoted/posted a dozen different passages, chapter and verse.

I don't believe making a passing reference to a general theme in scripture, constitutes "thumping" somebody over the head.

[BonnieB]

No thumping! We don't thump here. Well, not all that much, but we do try to play nice.

[LittleOldLady]

When I want something that I really really want I get it. No questions asked. Like my last rifle purchase.

I was in the store picking up something and I asked the guy, 'Do you have....., he said yes, I said, 'kin ah hold it pwease'
He said, 'Sure, lil lady, here ya are.'

Was love at first hold.

I said, 'Wrap it up and put a scope on it and I be back in 10 days'

Plunked down the cash and l love my new toy!

Of course, there was accessories to buy for it, which was fun too!

[movie zombie]

She doesn't hint at things
If she wants something it usually gets bought

ah, a woman like many of us here in this forum.

for the record, I may be one of the few people who didn't like Hawaii. I don't like hot/humid weather and oddly I got vertigo.....felt better out on a boat looking at the land! weird, I know......

has she never mentioned wanting to travel anywhere?
have you traveled anywhere with her and she mentioned how much she enjoyed it?
where did you get married?
is she an outdoors person?
does she like museums?
hobbies?
send me a PM if you don't want to divulge too much info on the internet.

[savannah]

I am not fond of humidity either Zombie. I do like Hawaii, but the sticky part can be miserable at certain times of year. I resolve to wearing hats to hide my hideous hair and light clothes when I am there. I couldn't live in humidity for sure. All of my heavy jewelry would stick to my skin!