Need some input here...

[Steyrlp10]

Interesting survey you want to take... my current spouse and I have an understanding about infidelity -- it's not healthy and may cause death. He favors wood chippers and I am a fan of changing the locks on the doors, tossing out personal items of the offending man, and then gleefully setting them on fire on the lawn.

So, we're happily married. He took good notes and remembers what happened to the other guy!

[rg_1111@yahoo.com]

It's up to you. But Once a Cheater always a cheater. Some change some never change.

[aplinker]

This thread makes me sad.

I hope you're doing OK.

[Saigon1965]

Too difficult for us to give you any advice - I am sure there are history behind this - We don't care fnor are we privy to the info -

Marriage is a work in progress - Do all you can to work it out - Good luck to the both of you and the kids -

[movie zombie]

This thread makes me sad.

I hope you're doing OK.

ditto.

but my answer is the quicker he is kicked to the curb and you get on with your life the better.

mz

[Meplat]

This seems to be implying "stay for the kids". Parents unhappily "forced" to stay together will vent in some manner with their kids, whether it be acting out due to stress or triangulating aggression.

A dad like that is not a good influence on the kids, unless of course we all agree that lies are the fundamental basis for a healthy relationship.

Untrained Psychobabble!

[Meplat]

If what you are inferring is incorrect, why have you not clarified it?

Life is complicated. Don't give advice if you don't know what you are talking about.

Knowing if one's spouse is a cheater seems like a benefit to me.

And that is exactly why you should refrain from giving relationship advice!

[forgiven]

Do you love him? If he is truly sorry and you really feel that it could work out, then forgive. I do want to add that the part that really bothers me is he must have low self esteem, not only for the act, but keeping the act on his phone. I wish you the best.

[Maddog5150]

Thats really sad. Its such a horrible feeling whenever your love cheats on you. Its never an easy decision...
On a side note. I'm a Taurus, enjoy long walks on the beach, 5'10"...

[masameet]

Well, if you have access to a gun, why isn't he dead by now?

lol

[Jpach]

Are the pictures of a woman he had sex with BEFORE you two got married? When did he get these pictures? Do they see eachother alot? Does he try to stay away from her?

Take those into consideration, along with many many other things. Either way this is a tough situation and it really is too bad you are going through this.

[rimfire17]

I think a long talk is in order before doing anything rash.

[movie zombie]

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[lilamyb83]

lol aren't you a guy?

I have trouble conceptualizing a guy suggesting that to a woman lol

Hey mister, you get NO input here... LOL.

As to the rest of you, we are going to try counseling and see if we can get our marriage back on track.

Thank you for all the input!

[freonr22]

i was a jerk to my wife, and we did counseling together, and she did her own counseling, and i did my own counseling and it really helped us. i told her when she wanted me to do counseling "if we fix our marriage and dont fix ourselves its not gonna work." I confidently feel you dont need to go for 20 years, but more tools in your toolbox sure never hurts. good luck. the sincerest best of wishes