Family issues

[sdkevin]

... I expected the men to support me but they were just as bad

They have a strong hunch that you are going to out shoot them..

[marcusrn]

Perception of attraction.

lmao maybe! whatever the case is, my mind is made up, and everyone knows once a woman's mind is made up there is no going back

So far I'm attracted to you, but I'm easy. It's a perception thing. Tell your detractors that you find their hoplaphobic leanings unattractive.

Now is your time to represent and be an example of good gun culture. Make it a goal to not only own guns but to shoot them safety and accurately. This takes time and effort. Be sensitive in dealing with your family.

Everyone knows that women are traditionally physically weaker than men. Guns are the original force multiplier. It would be silly for an intelligent women not to take advantage of this in a self defense setting.

Mark Cleary RN

PS You go girl!

[m850168]

Divine, just chiming in to say I think an interest in guns is attractive, good on you for taking the high road and not swearing, and as you get more involved in the shooting community I think you'll find a lot of support for your interest. It would be nice if your family was part of that support, and maybe they will be someday, but until they are don't let it stop you from pursuing your interest. Get out to some CalGuns events or take some classes and meet some people and you'll learn a ton and have a great time.

[SonofWWIIDI]

A lady with guns is attractive! Guns are not just for men. And it means a lot more than just knowing how to shoot. Self reliant and independent immediately come to mind.

[DIVINE]

I don't know how to go about this situation because I have the type of family who is going to constantly bring this up, but I will keep repeating that this is my life and if I want to buy a gun that is my decision

[stag6.8]

I brought my girlfriend a glock 26 and her own AR-15 This past christmas.....and she loves It...not only she knows how to shoot them(very well I must add) she knows how to maintain them and transport them....she took NRA classes in pistol and rifle classes...on her own. She tells me by having them gives her strength independance And not being a possible victim.

what model/caliber pistol were you planning on buying?

btw...I think your family is afraid of you because you refuse to be submissive to others..make your voice heard and dont take other peoples crap.

Most of all. If something were to happen, who will they be calling for help When theres No police coming around to help them ......YOU!
if they keep bringing it up, so what, you're a grown woman, what can they do? Not a damn thing.

[Off the Roster]

I don't know how to go about this situation because I have the type of family who is going to constantly bring this up, but I will keep repeating that this is my life and if I want to buy a gun that is my decision

You do not have to buy a gun in order to start taking lessons. It will actually assist in your purchasing experience if you know safety and mechanical function before you buy. If you live with your family, it may not be realistic to consider purchasing until you can afford a place of your own - if you are under their roof, and they do not want guns in their home, that needs to be respected.

[philobeddoe]

I don't know how to go about this situation because I have the type of family who is going to constantly bring this up, but I will keep repeating that this is my life and if I want to buy a gun that is my decision

They're entitled to their opinion, but it's your business not theirs.
No reason to make it their business.
Why are you discussing your personal business with them?
Consider knocking it off. Your life, your business.
Self reliance and independence begin with being self reliant and independent.
Don't run your business by others looking for approval and validation.
Find like minded peers with common interests, like here on CalGuns,
to share and explore your new interest.
Good luck, have fun, shoot straight and safely.

[stag6.8]

You do not have to buy a gun in order to start taking lessons. It will actually assist in your purchasing experience if you know safety and mechanical function before you buy. If you live with your family, it may not be realistic to consider purchasing until you can afford a place of your own - if you are under their roof, and they do not want guns in their home, that needs to be respected.

Very good statement...do you live with them?....or live on your own?...if you mind us asking?

[redfield96]

Give them Dana Loesch's new book "Hands Off My Gun"

[DIVINE]

You do not have to buy a gun in order to start taking lessons. It will actually assist in your purchasing experience if you know safety and mechanical function before you buy. If you live with your family, it may not be realistic to consider purchasing until you can afford a place of your own - if you are under their roof, and they do not want guns in their home, that needs to be respected.

I live with a roommate and after we been followed home a couple of times by strangers we felt that it is best to buy a gun, I am well aware that I definitely need to take classes, and I can understand my family not even respecting my decision, but to tell me that I am unattractive is a big NO, or the the sport is too "manly" thats total BS and you know it

[DIVINE]

They're entitled to their opinion, but it's your business not theirs.
No reason to make it their business.
Why are you discussing your personal business with them?
Consider knocking it off. Your life, your business.
Self reliance and independence begin with being self reliant and independent.
Don't run your business by others looking for approval and validation.
Find like minded peers with common interests, like here on CalGuns,
to share and explore your new interest.
Good luck, have fun, shoot straight and safely.

Me and my roommate was followed home by a group of guys and of course I told my family, so when they casually asked I told them that me and my roommate are discussing of having a gun in the house, as a protection just in case anything happens

[Gavelek]

I convinced my wife to go shooting with me and she loved it, I bought her 22 rifle and a revolver, together we took couple classes and she shoots better and better...I might say it was a bit selfish on my side because now she supports my gun buying hobby

[BonnieB]

OP, is your family driving at the idea that shooting is un-dainty, un-ladylike? That men will not be attracted to you if they know you shoot? Was that what they meant?

Well, aside from being flat wrong, they're flat wrong. I wouldn't say shooting is particularly dainty, but neither is bowling or softball. And most of the women I know who shoot are genuine ladies, in the best sense of the term.

For myself, any guy who likes me less because I shoot, own guns and am able to protect myself, is no great loss. REAL MEN LIKE STRONG WOMEN. Any man who implies that you should not take responsibilty for your safety and for your fun, is not a keeper.

Most men that I know, who shoot, would be THRILLED to have a wife or girlfriend to shoot with. If you go to a Calguns Monthly Shoot, you will probably come away knowing five or six great guys to shoot with.

So I think your family may have your best interests at heart, but they're wrong. And maybe insanely old fashioned.

Get an instructor, learn to shoot, see if you actually like it, and go get your gun.

And Welcome! You've found the right place to discuss guns, women's shooting, women's carry and other relevant issues. The Women's Forum has some of the liveliest conversations in Calguns.

[Off the Roster]

to tell me that I am unattractive is a big NO, or the the sport is too "manly" thats total BS and you know it

I've never stated that your family is correct and I have only sought to receive clarification on a situation that is obviously troubling you. I have no knowledge of your character, background, or level of maturity, and I am not the type to blindly take someone's side just because they are female.