Divorce among LEOs?

[Che762x39]

I wonder if it is higher divorce rate among LE or military? I thought LE suicide rate was a bit higher than average too?

Suicides can be prevented. It is all about how to handle PSTD. I had at least one classmate commit suicide after about 4 years on the job. Several others for various reasons.

If you worry about what people think of you, be a fireman. Policework is not good if you are thin skinned.

[CinnamonBear723]

Two of my best friends and partners are going through divorces right now too. Like the old saying goes, "your not a real cop until your on your third wife."

I think it's just a tough job to be someone's significant other. Cheating is pretty common which doesn't help. My two friends were both faithful but their wives just couldn't hang. Cops also tend to be attracted to crazy chicks for some reason.

This a reason I have been hesitant to get married. I don't want my 3% at 50 to turn into 1.5% at 50.

[CinnamonBear723]

www.blueeq.com

He came and spoke at our dept a few years ago. He seemed like a super good dude. Gave out some good advice I needed to hear as a young cop. His speeches and book are good for spouses as well.

[johnnycharro]

Been married over 30 years. Retired in 2011. I never brought the job home or commiserated with co-workers after shift and never talked shop with the boy'os. Stayed close to the Lord and made sure I regularly hung out with friends who weren't only on the job.

This....been married 38 years, I'm a husband, father, grandfather, firearm nut, fisherman, biker, Christian who happens to be a cop.

[Cokebottle]

This a reason I have been hesitant to get married. I don't want my 3% at 50 to turn into 1.5% at 50 60.

Fixed that for you

[yzErnie]

I was married to my ex for 17 years and on the job well before that. My divorce had nothing to do with the job and had everything to do with her becoming a freaking whack job. Had to get away from that nonsense. She even wrote a letter to the Sheriff telling him I should be fired because I was divorcing her.

Been with this wife for 20+ a couple years living together and life is the best it has ever been. Marriage is a two way street and like said above, it is what you make of it. It's not always perfect but when you can work out your conflicts that makes it even better.

[foomxyooj]

When I worked patrol, I really enjoyed it. Loved it actually to the point where I put my job before my family. After things at home started going bad, made the decision to transfer to courts, A+ schedule. Will never put the job before my family again. Family life is good again.

One thing I have noticed, when I worked patrol, more than half the station was divorced. At courts, you'll one or two getting divorced. But Those that are, divorced while working patrol or at a specialized unit.

Never put the job before your family. If something happens, dept will hang you high and dry. Family will always be there for you.

^^^I agree


I've been at my job for 11+ years. I was married for 3 years before I started my career. My first daughter was born right before I started. Being the only source of income (my wife was a stay at home mom, her choice of course), I began to pull OT like a crazed mad man. Fast forward a few years, my wife starts telling me that I've changed as a person.

At around the same time, I got hit with an IA and realized then that the department can careless about me. I was just another expendable body for the bus to run over. I now work my normal work schedule and whatever "mandatory" OT I'm forced to work.

My wife and kids notices that I'm a much more happy person when I'm on vacation and spending valuable time with them, so I tend to take a whole bunch of those. I've now been married for 14 years and I hope it's the first and last.