Divorce among LEOs?

[Sikvenum93]

[Cokebottle]

Cops and doctors.
High stress job and a lot of time away from home. It can strain a relationship. Buddy of mine that retired 10 years ago was married 5 times (to 3 different women).

[vintagearms]

Lots of badge bunnies get tired of lack of time and attention and then divorce happens. Really kind of depends on department and location.

[wayno21]

A divorced and IA’s, cleared IA’s but not divorce.

[I Swan]

I wonder if it is higher divorce rate among LE or military? I thought LE suicide rate was a bit higher than average too?

[hermosabeach]

I have family in the business....

From what I understand, the ones who openly communicate with the spouse stay married....

The ones who cannot articulate what they see, feel and deal with end up divorcing.



On a general note, my friends who got married and had not discussed
1- did they want to have kids or not
2- what religion would they follow? Sometimes when kids come up, religion changes
3- money - are they spenders or savers/ investors

Talk to the guys / girls who got married. Why did they get married? Why did they split?

[Sikvenum93]

I thought LE suicide rate was a bit higher than average too?

[I Swan]

I figured you don't need to tell your spouse the more gruesome and difficult parts of being a cop or in military. The other stuff I agree with.

I know a guy that was with NYPD for a while in a tough precinct he said he got out as it was draining seeing the worst of humanity over the years like child abuse and such.

[HAVOC5150]

I posted a stat on FB earlier today, it said we have a 54% divorce rate. My partner commented he had a 100% divorce rate, he’s been married 5X.

[Sikvenum93]

[TRICKSTER]

Was on the job a little over 30 years, married for 37. A marriage is what you make it.

[CBR_rider]

I would be curious to see whether more cops stay married if they were married prior to LE work or if they get married after starting the job. We are hardly the only ones who have a mentally draining job; but if you don’t have a way to positively deal with the stress of working in such a toxic environment you will probably wind up bounced out due to bad conduct or become a suicide statistic..

[zeddy]

When I worked patrol, I really enjoyed it. Loved it actually to the point where I put my job before my family. After things at home started going bad, made the decision to transfer to courts, A+ schedule. Will never put the job before my family again. Family life is good again.

One thing I have noticed, when I worked patrol, more than half the station was divorced. At courts, you'll one or two getting divorced. But Those that are, divorced while working patrol or at a specialized unit.

Never put the job before your family. If something happens, dept will hang you high and dry. Family will always be there for you.

[dno]

Met my wife in '76, started the academy in '80, married her in '83, ret'd in '05...still married and loving her even more.

Don't rush in, talk, know what you're getting into, and don't be a stubborn fool. Stay flexible. Definitely have friends outside the job.

[71MUSTY]

Was on the job a little over 30 years, married for 37. A marriage is what you make it.

This,I know lots and lots of LEO's current and retired still on wife #1.


I have always spent my time off with and on my family. Lots of friends spent their time off golfing and doing other things to avoid their family.

Life is what you (not your job or friends) make it.