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  • #76
    CharlieSierraPapa021714
    Junior Member
    • Feb 2014
    • 17

    Don't hide it.

    Buy it if you can afford it.

    It's just money.

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    • #77
      thegamettt
      Veteran Member
      • Jan 2011
      • 2628

      buy what you can before you take the lunge of deeeatthh!
      Have a good day!

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      • #78
        sd_shooter
        I need a LIFE!!
        • Dec 2008
        • 13865

        After a heated talk about my next gun, my wife once blurted "Fine! Do what you want. I don't even want to hear about it!"

        In my male mind this meant "Fine! Do what you want. I don't even want to hear about it!" (Right?)

        So I went ahead and bought a few more guns, and just stuck them in the safe, figuring she simply wanted no part of it and meanwhile I had the green light as long as the power was on and there was food on the table.

        Wrong. In girl-speak, what she said actually meant "I want to know about everything you buy, don't leave me out of this." Lots of time spent in the sexless dog house after that

        Since then, I have learned that it's best to simply tell her. Things work out better that way.
        Last edited by sd_shooter; 03-03-2014, 9:55 AM.

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        • #79
          kcjr1125
          Veteran Member
          • Apr 2012
          • 3883

          My opinion is not to do it and if you are do it on layaway so it's a little at a time.
          Originally posted by OHOD
          I guess I could rub my muff against his exwifes muff. Is that what they call muff diving?
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          • #80
            Jimi Jah
            I need a LIFE!!
            • Jan 2014
            • 18723

            Explain the ENTIRE situation to her. If she understands, marry her. If not, look elsewhere.

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            • #81
              -hanko
              CGN/CGSSA Contributor
              CGN Contributor
              • Jul 2002
              • 14174

              Originally posted by tommyboy619
              Haha, thought I was the only idiot who left the receipt out in the open. OP do what you feel comfortable. I personally just buy what I want, when I want. I don't necessarily hide it from her, but I don't advertise I just bought it either. Saves a lot of unnecessary arguing. BTW I'm the bread winner and I pay for everything, so when we argue, it's about my money anyways. Go figure.
              I figure it's that pesky community property thing.
              True wealth is time. Time to enjoy life.

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              • #82
                Tasty
                Senior Member
                • May 2011
                • 1829

                Jesus. Man up and buy the gun. Of you're having to hide things from her, you might want to reconsider the whole marriage thing.
                As the great warrior poet Ice Cube once said "If the day does not require an AK, it is good."

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                • #83
                  davek8s
                  Senior Member
                  • Jan 2011
                  • 2014

                  It's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission.

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                  • #84
                    MaHoTex
                    Calguns Addict
                    • Jul 2010
                    • 5002

                    Originally posted by 40calibre
                    Now the controversy is if I bought it I would hide it, locked and put it in a place it wouldn't be found. Then bring it up next year when adequate time has passed.
                    I think this is a wonderful plan and you two will be married for a very long time.

                    Seriously, what could possibly go wrong?
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                    • #85
                      billofrights
                      CGN/CGSSA Contributor
                      CGN Contributor
                      • Oct 2012
                      • 2343

                      Be an adult and buy whatever you damn well please, with no apology or explanation needed or given. Most people spend WAY too much on a wedding, a lot of cash for what's basically a party for everyone else. If it's an issue tell her to just spend $450 less on that.

                      Seriously, go buy a cake from a local bakery and don't say ONE EFFING WORD about it being for a wedding. "Wedding cake" magically makes eggs, flour, and sugar worth 100x their normal cost. Women are conditioned to expect that fairy tale BS with all the flowers and whatnot. Get married at the courthouse with a witness, then take a couple thousand dollars to reserve a place and just have a party. Why spend so much on flowers, cake, invitations, all the other silly trappings. Every wedding I was at had TERRIBLE food.

                      Take the money you WOULD have spent and put it towards a house. Starting your life together under a mountain of wedding debt is absurd. It's the MARRIAGE that's important, not the WEDDING. Remember that.

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                      • #86
                        renardsubtil
                        Senior Member
                        • Feb 2008
                        • 1659

                        I was in the same boat OP.

                        Don't do it.

                        Save your money and get through the wedding and purchasing a house...there's ALWAYS going to be a "panic" buy and a low point where you can pick up some awesome deals - I have enough ammo and overpriced guns I bought from the last time there was a panic to prove it. A wedding is a one time event and the home (for the most part) will be as well so save your money for those things imho.

                        Your priorities will change a lot when those life events roll around.
                        "Those who hammer their guns into plows will plow for those who do not."

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                        • #87
                          MaHoTex
                          Calguns Addict
                          • Jul 2010
                          • 5002

                          Originally posted by billofrights
                          Be an adult and buy whatever you damn well please, with no apology or explanation needed or given. Most people spend WAY too much on a wedding, a lot of cash for what's basically a party for everyone else. If it's an issue tell her to just spend $450 less on that.

                          Seriously, go buy a cake from a local bakery and don't say ONE EFFING WORD about it being for a wedding. "Wedding cake" magically makes eggs, flour, and sugar worth 100x their normal cost. Women are conditioned to expect that fairy tale BS with all the flowers and whatnot. Get married at the courthouse with a witness, then take a couple thousand dollars to reserve a place and just have a party. Why spend so much on flowers, cake, invitations, all the other silly trappings. Every wedding I was at had TERRIBLE food.

                          Take the money you WOULD have spent and put it towards a house. Starting your life together under a mountain of wedding debt is absurd. It's the MARRIAGE that's important, not the WEDDING. Remember that.
                          This man knows exactly what he is talking about. The trick is convincing your SO to look past the one day of being the center of attention.

                          Waste of money is a huge understatement.
                          NRA Life Member

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                          • #88
                            hcbr
                            Veteran Member
                            • Jul 2010
                            • 4733

                            OP, just wait on it, ccw anyways is going to take a while to sort out, and the repeal hasn't even been judged on yet. If I were you, harp on her purchases on the wedding and after the wedding, either buy it then, or wait till you got the house, and then buy the gun. Either way, so long as you're responsible with your money, go buy whatever you want. My wife knows this is my hobby, and since she doesn't like it herself, she lets me do whatever i want with my guns, so long as it's safe and secured.

                            But do please have transparency and let her know what you have. Deceit is a road that shouldn't be explored, let a lone, the amount of energy you guys will have arguing.
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                            • #89
                              hcbr
                              Veteran Member
                              • Jul 2010
                              • 4733

                              OP, just wait on it, ccw anyways is going to take a while to sort out, and the repeal hasn't even been judged on yet. If I were you, harp on her purchases on the wedding and after the wedding, either buy it then, or wait till you got the house, and then buy the gun. Either way, so long as you're responsible with your money, go buy whatever you want. My wife knows this is my hobby, and since she doesn't like it herself, she lets me do whatever i want with my guns, so long as it's safe and secured.

                              But do please have transparency and let her know what you have. Deceit is a road that shouldn't be explored, let a lone, the amount of energy you guys will have arguing. Hey take a page from me, was in the same boat as you, first gun led to multiple, and as of now, i'm knee deep with 28 guns and married, and the wife knows i have alot, including ammo. No need to hide , besides, you'll get that itch to show your gun off, or take it to the range, or worse, she might find it and say wtf is this? lol
                              Be the change that you wish to see in the world.Mahatma Gandhi

                              "A bullet sounds the same in every language..."
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                              • #90
                                billmaykafer
                                Senior Member
                                • May 2012
                                • 1264

                                Originally posted by 40calibre
                                Just wanting to see others opinions out there. Sorry if not current thread.

                                2013 I've become a first time owner. With the excitement of a new hobby and panic, I went into a buying frenzy. I ended up going into some savings after ammo and range time. My finance has been patient and enjoyed going to the range with me. She usually makes me promise that my last purchase will be my last, and this time she is for real.

                                She really doesn't want me purchasing right now because she wants us to pay for the wedding and buy a house before I keep spending money.

                                I've been wanting to buy a Glock 19 ever since the hype of ccw came around. I figure you never know when this market of availability will end and I should just buy it now. I also think if I ever really need cash I could sell if for at least $450, if unfired.

                                Now the controversy is if I bought it I would hide it, locked and put it in a place it wouldn't be found. Then bring it up next year when adequate time has passed.

                                So has anyone else done this before? Someone talk me out or into it .
                                good thing you are not married.
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