Tears at the range...

[ldsnet]

Introducing a person to firearms can produce tears. My sister didn't want to touch a gun. She was in tears to realize I had one on my hip the entire week we were all together.

If this poor dude is looking to have a relationship with this lady, they have some significant differences to work through.

[madland]

OP was she hawt?

Or did she have pointy elbows?

[hunterb]

I'm married to a bleeding heart liberal. We have many thinks in common, enjoy our time together, work great as a team, but I stay away from discussing politics, guns, and issues in general that would trigger a discussion.

I have a bunch of great friends, many of whom I share a lot with. If those friends are not pro-gun, I just don't discuss gun stuff with them. If they are on a religious path I don't discuss religion. If they are weird in terms of money I don't discuss finances with them.

I go shooting, and my wife has zero interest in it. She has no clue how many guns I have, let alone which ones. It's just not on her radar. Sometimes, good enough has to be good enough. I don't think there are many couples that are 100% in tune with everything their partner does. So be it.

You lost me at married to a bleeding heart liberal
I am sad for you brother.

[Marauder2003]

I'm married to a bleeding heart liberal. We have many thinks in common, enjoy our time together, work great as a team, but I stay away from discussing politics, guns, and issues in general that would trigger a discussion.

I have a bunch of great friends, many of whom I share a lot with. If those friends are not pro-gun, I just don't discuss gun stuff with them. If they are on a religious path I don't discuss religion. If they are weird in terms of money I don't discuss finances with them.

I go shooting, and my wife has zero interest in it. She has no clue how many guns I have, let alone which ones. It's just not on her radar. Sometimes, good enough has to be good enough. I don't think there are many couples that are 100% in tune with everything their partner does. So be it.

[SharedShots]

It doesn't get any more dumb than this.

You never take someone to a range or put guns in their hands when they are showing signs of obvious mental/emotional stress. It's hard to believe that so many posts are about compatibility and some litmus test for who to choose as a wife, GF/whatever.

A woman in tears could be so for many reason but one of them is that she is deciding a course of action and that course of action to any reasonable person might include doing something unsafe considering they have said they don't want to be there and there is where guns are. Maybe she's trying to figure out how to tell the guy she is pregnant, maybe she wants out of the relationship? Maybe she is afraid that if she has a gun in their hands she might do something really bag.

It doesn't matter if the woman (or anyone else) was in tears because their pancakes came out bad, that isn't the time to take them to a range and put a gun in their hand.

How many times have we read stories about people in distress who are desperate but don't show it other than hoping someone will ask if they are ok?

OP saw and listened to this and not once asked if everything is ok? Screw the jerk saying it's no of the OP's business. At the range, safety is EVERYONE'S BUSINESS.

They guy was THE idiot but so was the cashier who if they saw the woman in tears should have had the common sense and the safety of everyone else there in the foremost thought of their mind. Here is a guy bringing someone to the range who doesn't want to be there, she is in tears and they don't ask one simple EFFING question like "ARE YOU OK?"

What is it with the part of all this where the guns are more important than people? Is this what guns are all about, screw everyone and anyone who doesn't like guns?

How can anyone decide that just because someone doesn't like something that they oppose the 2nd/A or others that do like guns? That is about as ludicrous as it gets.

You do not put guns into the hands of people displaying emotional distress and it doesn't matter how well you know them. It has nothing to do with the 2nd/A, gun owner rights but it does have a lot to do with the mentality of MUH GUNS and that being more important than everything else.

I don't like a lot of things but I support those that do. I'd just as soon get a root canal than go to a NASCAR race but no way would I tell anyone else not to go or enjoy their time there. I'd even buy their tickets as a gift if they liked going. Some people can't figure such a thing out and anyone and everyone must like guns or that is reason enough not to associate with them.

How on a gun forum does anyone not think about the safety aspect of taking someone who is to the point of crying (and no one including the OP knows exactly why she was in tears) to a range and putting a gun with live ammo in their hands? All this talk about training, safety, the news about distraught people who use guns to harm themselves or others and what do we read about here? The relationship won't last.






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[therealnickb]

My wife of 38 years doesn't like to shoot. Her family doesn't like guns because "guns are bad". She cried after the very first live round, put the gun down and walked out.

To do over, I'd have taken her outdoors and used only a .22 for her first live fire. I doubt she'd feel differently about guns today, but I'm sure the first experience wouldn't have been so scary for her.

Now she functions 100% on her own with a pistol and rifle. She's even broken a few clays. She admits it isn't fun or relaxing for her, but feels it's an important skill.

I wouldn't trade her for anyone.

[-hanko]

SharedShots...

...thanks for the post. You are dead on.

No issues in the house for me. Married an Idaho native who's a very good shooter.

She killed her first deer with her Dad when she was around 8 years old.

[drkphibr]

...OP saw and listened to this and not once asked if everything is ok? Screw the jerk saying it's no of the OP's business. At the range, safety is EVERYONE'S BUSINESS.
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Ummm, me thinks you are reading a bit more into this than what actually occurred.

She wasn't balling and crying in tears. Her cheeks were flush and eyes teary, so you could tell she was bothered or upset (she wasn't in meltdown status). SAFETY was never an issue or concern as she was walking normally towards the cashier and not hindered in any way. She didn't look like she needed assistance and quite frankly whatever was bothering her wasn't my business. No one's safety was an issue for me to "jump into" heroics action. I'm all for chivalry, but wasn't needed here IMO. No need to over complicate a delicate (and possibly embarrassing) situation already.

[Jimi Jah]

Maybe start her out with a .22 rifle instead of a 12 gauge?

My wife loves to shoot her .22. She has no interest in center fire. I'm ok with that, the ammo is cheaper.

[aklon]

for point 3, isn't like a quarter to even half of the people on this forum complain about having to hide their gun purchases from their wives?

so a lot of gun people have spouses that dislike guns but yet they still married them.

It's not the guns we hide; it's the money we spent getting them.

[operavoice]

The first time I took my wife to a range, I cried.
I showed her the ins and outs of a mini 14, watched her run through a couple of magazines to make sure she could handle it. Cease fire, set up targets, Range hot, then went about my business testing hand loads.
Next thing I know, there's a tap on my shoulder, "I'm out of ammo."
I'm trying to do the math in my head about how she could burn through a 250 round box in half an hour when I don't have a speed loader.
Then I remember, I brought all of the magazines, and she was loading during cease fire.

Two and a half hours later, that was the most expensive range day I've ever had in my life. (thank God, I reload)

I bought her an M&P 15/22.
Now, I hand her a box of ammo and say, "Go nuts."
If she wants to shoot bigger, I hand her TWO magazines and no more than 100 rounds.

Still, I call it a win, having a wife that likes to shoot, and is a surprisingly good shot for no formal training.
We've started going to a monthly .22 rifle match, and I've got us going to an Appleseed in September.

[CessnaDriver]

Take new shooters to BLM land. Way more relaxed and not subjecting them to indoor confined space shooting sounds and concussion. bad place to introduce in my opinion.


All the moments, lost in time…. Like tears at the range.

[alpha_romeo_XV]

There has to be some underlying reasons the GF was uncomfortable. But taking a hesitant shooter to an indoor range where there could be a desert eagle 50AE blasting in the next bay is not a good intro to shooting. Even at an outdoor range I had a woman out with her husband down the line go sit in the car after I starting shooting full pop 357s. Work your way up, take her to Bass ProShop and let her shoot at the electronic shooting gallery, then pellet gun at a spinner target, then rimfire, etc. No targets of bambi on first date.

I ditched a date once by taking her up the ski lift to the top of the black diamond run and said see you at the bottom. She said she was a good skier and my doubts were right. Dozens of reasons a woman is not wife/mother material and flushing those out sooner than later is the way to go.

[Regular guy]

I go to the range to get away from the wife.

[Dan_Eastvale]

Take new shooters to BLM land. Way more relaxed and not subjecting them to indoor confined space shooting sounds and concussion. bad place to introduce in my opinion.


All the moments, lost in time…. Like tears at the range.

Yeah, I’m thinking it was the sudden bangs and concussion of that .45 in the next stall

Much better alone in BLM fir first time