guns and dating

[PandaLuv]

Before I start, I would really appreciate serious comments and no "pics or didn't happen" posts. I would hate to ask the mods to move to a different section. I am not Neil... no offense.


Anyways, Since I've turned single, I've talked to a decent amount of women and dated a few. The fact that I loved guns always made girls uncomfortable, indifferent or some actually liked it, but it always felt like I should keep on DL and I had the worst timing to tell them about my number one hobby. I don't wanna lie about it, but I don't wanna hide it either. I love guns more than anything else, besides friends and family. What do you reccomend doing?

I'm talking to this really nice pretty girl and I don't wanna **** this up by bringing this up too early and sounding like I'm a psycho. After all we live in CA.

Thanks, guys,.


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[Bobula]

I bring it up on the first date if not sooner. If our views don't match no reason to keep pursuing.

[PandaLuv]

Think I should? How should I bring it up?

Also, I need to remember to keep politics out of it, I hate liberals and uber republicans. It seems most people I meet outside of calguns are either or.

[ZirconJohn]

Looks like a certain someone is missing OT...!?!

Just saying'

[PandaLuv]

Looks like a certain someone is missing OT...!?!

Just saying'

Lmao, hey. I can come back to OT any time I want, I just choose not too.

[Bobula]

Its easier for me to bring up because of my job.

[PandaLuv]

Its easier for me to bring up because of my job.

Sigh, I might just say that I'm a chubby Asian kid that still lives at home and has a collection of guns and all he does just talk, breath, shoot, clean guns. I am not sure what to say when she asks what my favorite hobby is.


Not that I'm proud of being pro2A, FFS I'm getting a gun tattoo, just with girls it's a problem. A lot of people in this state are retarded and have a fear of an object.

[Ziggy91]

I was in a similar situation 2 weeks ago. Didn't wana tell a girl that I'm big on guns... but I did anyway because she asked about my hobbies. No problems so far

Honestly, as a fellow man, that shouldn't matter. Finding the right person is about being yourself and still being able to do at least some of the things you usually do. If I find the perfect girl, but because of her I can't be a gearhead or a gun enthusiast... then she gets the boot.

Remember, it's not all about their opinion. You have hobbies/things that you like to do...
... you think she's going to stop shopping because you don't think it's healthy or appealing?

[PandaLuv]

I was in a similar situation 2 weeks ago. Didn't wana tell a girl that I'm big on guns... but I did anyway because she asked about my hobbies. No problems so far

Honestly, as a fellow man, that shouldn't matter. Finding the right person is about being yourself and still being able to do at least some of the things you usually do. If I find the perfect girl, but because of her I can't be a gearhead or a gun enthusiast... then she gets the boot.

Remember, it's not all about their opinion. You have hobbies/things that you like to do...
... you think she's going to stop shopping because you don't think it's healthy or appealing?

Good point, so should I keep DL unless she asks and let her see that I'm a decent non violent mellow guy who just loves guns for various reasons.

[stix213]

Pics or it....

You can keep it on the DL at first, then take her to the range after you're already in. Chances are she'll wake up to reality around then.

[Ziggy91]

Good point, so should I keep DL unless she asks and let her see that I'm a decent non violent mellow guy who just loves guns for various reasons.

Yes. DL is fine. Only if they ask, and be gentle about it. You don't need to bring up how pro 2A you are, or what kind of makes/models you like. Just a quick glimpse into your hobby would suffice. No point getting into something they probably have no idea about, and might even be bored or scared off by. Then again, you;re lookin for the one that's neither...

[SuperSet]

It really helps if you're involved in the shooting sports. You don't have to get into specifics but in general, people understand competition. You can thank Top Shot for that.

[odysseus]

I shall try to keep this simple. Don't be a tool and feel like you need to tell her right away, drop hints, make some big deal about this. Feeling like you have to push that on her may actually be more a problem for her than actually having them.

Don't obsess over it, just focus on showing her a good time and having fun with each other. She knowing you are into firearms should happen organically as she gets to know you more and you spend time with her. If it is that big of a deal where she can't be with you further because she understands you have guns and go shooting, then that's her problem. It's no big deal. If she makes deal out it, it's because she has got the issues about it.

[Bobula]

You need to focus on your positives rather then what you perceive as your negatives.

[anthonyca]

Any hobby can be harmful if it becomes an obsession. I would just tell her about your hobby without trying to convert her if sh is an antibodies. If she doesn't like guns and she doesn't try to change you or tell you how wrong you are, that could be a good sign. If she goes right into criticizing you and guns you should think about how a future with this person would be. If the conversation was a debate then dissagreement would be OK, as long as it doesn't get personal or controlling.

I could never be happy wig someone who hates my #1 hobby and passion and I don't think anyone can. That is part of the reason many people are with a spouse they resent for holding them back.

Take this with a grain of salt. I am a single Guy by choice because I don't want to listen to anyone.