How to deal with jabbed in laws...

[lear60man]

I am in the same boat dude... slightly different situation but yeah it sucks.

May I offer two pieces of advice?

1. Be strong in your boundaries and limits with them. Your house, your rules. Your kids, your rules. If they want to be around your house and your children then they must agree to STFU about subjects you don't want them discussing with them. You are 100% in the right as a husband and father in protecting your family from toxic people.

See, healthy people - even if they disagree with your choices - shouldn't lose their **** and not be able to respect your home and your wishes. That ALONE says volumes.

2. I deal with this same issue with my wife and I and her family. FOR ME, I don't want to be the reason why she stops having contact with her family. I would LIKE her to have contact with them even if I do not. It's kind of a win win for me. I show my wife I am the sane calm one and when her family ****-talks me (which they do all the time) it becomes clearer and clearer to her that they're the ones with the problem, not me. It put the onus on THEM to decide if they are capable of having a healthy relationship with her or not.

I think just "cutting people off" isn't a good choice until you've clearly established your boundaries and limits, communicated that to them, and them given them the option to follow them or not. Then they may stop or they may not. Then you have full recourse IMO to pull back from them.

Just my 2 cents.

Spot on advice. They might make nice down the road but they will always have angst against you if you try to make her disavow her family.

I would also have a man to man with the dad at his house on his turf. Let him know in no way is he to step foot in your house and play that crap again in front of YOUR children.

[SkyHawk]

I'm still trying to figure out what the jab has to do with this situation

[TheGood]

I'm still trying to figure out what the jab has to do with this situation

The in-laws think OP and family are 'crazy' for not getting jabbed, and trying to force their viewpoint on him and his family.

[gdr_11]

It saddens me to see how people have allowed the media to rob them of what’s really important in life in order to choose sides on asinine issues. Many families who would never allow infighting over politics or religion have allowed the Covid nonsense to drive a wedge between them.

This is the goal of the Left; to split the family unit by using fear and by turning children against their parents. A fractured society is more easily controlled and they are hell bent on destroying the family unit in America.

The bottom line is that there is no way to have a Covid conversation because it can never be a conversation. Facts, reason and logic cannot coexist with fear, hysteria and politicized agendas.

[LBDamned]

So....to put things into perspective, does this mean that if you and your family get vaccinated, all the problems go away? Your job will be secure, Thanksgiving celebration will be back, in-laws and everyone else lives happily ever after?

Are you suggesting 'do as you're told and everything will be fine'?...

If so, I'm anxious for the next 'do as you're told' ... as one of them will not sit well with you. But remember this one and don't be a hypocrite.

As for me - I've reconciled my position well over a year ago... I saw this crap coming from the beginning... im a productive citizen- but I won't compromise my integrity or principles to appease overzealous efforts of coercion. If society makes me an outlaw, so be it.

Own your decisions.

[M1NM]

Tell them they are free to attend but must wear masks at all times due to uncertainty of vax and the fact you guys have herd immunity.
Seat them all 6' away at the kiddie table so they don't expose your family.

[LBDamned]

I'm still trying to figure out what the jab has to do with this situation

It's not about an illness that's for sure.

Unless you want to get into mental this and that- which I don't think is necessary.

[Epaphroditus]

It's astonishing how so many have bowed so deeply to the fear and propaganda. So many are utterly incapable of rational thought. Best to have nothing to do with that sort.

[steadyrock]

The bottom line is that there is no way to have a Covid conversation because it can never be a conversation. Facts, reason and logic cannot coexist with fear, hysteria and politicized agendas.

[stonefly-2]

I talked to my dad yesterday on his birthday,

he's in his late 80's, lives in the leftist hotbed of Tucson, his wife is an indoctrinator.

Catching up on family news the 2 sub 11 yr old grandkids just got their shot, the one sub 5 yr old has to wait.

Pretty sure I won't be allowed to see dad again.

[Satex]

[mtenenhaus]

I try to figure out how important stuff really is in the long run and prioritize accordingly.

Sometimes i just bend over if it's in our best interest in the long run. Sometimes you have to fight to the death if it's critical / important enough.

Is it really worth destroying family ties for this?

Only you can answer that for your self.

I miss my Dad so much i'd give up my legs and kidneys with nary a regret to see him again.

[sigstroker]

OP, you're the big winner here. You won't have to see or hear your in-laws ever again.

[lear60man]

What I dont understand is if a person is jabbed, what do they care? They are one of the chosen people now. They cant get it (false), they cant spread it (also false). One simple shoat and they are immune to the troubles of the world. But yet they draw lines in the sand and alienate friends and family. What again are the first stages of a genocide?

[gdr_11]