body piercings - yes or no?

[2Cute2Shoot]

This is to us calgunner girls who are mostly mature/conservative/religious. So my husband's birthday is on October 8 and he has already told me what he wants me to get him, which is he wants me to get two body piercings. I do not want to get banned from calguns, so this is strictly a 'G' Rated discussion only. He has not asked me to pierce any 'x' rated spots anyway. So I currently only have my ears pierced, which I did when I got my first earrings on my sweet 16, and I am a mother and a conservative Christian.

I always kind of had discrimination against girls with these piercings which was that they were all emos (the ones I knew had them), or slutty (the ones you could tell on TV/internet). But my husband says it is only for him since the world doesn't see them as you walk by, and so nobody would be thinking anything about me anyway.

When my husband requested this, I was angry and thinking, like what is he really into? Think of me? Think is important in our marital relationship? But also I have been reading online and I guess there's nothing really wrong with it? If I did it, I would totally be ccwing these piercings with clothing to conceal LOL! And that's if I even kept them in when they weren't specifically asked to be in.

So is it 'appropriate'/normal for your husband to ask you to get piercings? Do you think girls with body piercings are demeaning themselves...meaning like trap stamp x10? Or is this just no big deal. Would you consider it if your husband asked?

[BonnieB]

I don't think there are any moral implications to piercings, and certainly they can be less permanent than tatoos. The one I had, other than my ears, closed up altogether, withing six weeks when I stopped putting in a ring.

But people do judge, based on what they see, for tattoos, piercings, body mods of any sort. I knew an absolutely sweet 60 year old lady in Boston who had nine "CCW"piercings, not counting the usual earlobe ones. She just dug the whole look. If people only knew. For me, some appeal to me and some really don't. Frankly the whole ear-plug-make-huge-holes-in-your-earlobes thing freaks me out. (All I can think of it catching one with a hairbrush....)

The main consideration I would have is safety (really, Bonnie?), that you use an immaculately clean professional shop, not the mall earring store. Go visit, get references. People do get infections...

Bear in mind that if you pierce particularly sensitive areas, you can loose feeling there, maybe permanently. This is a fact, I know two women it happened to personally, to their extreme sorrow. It has to do with hitting invisible neves, during the piercing process. If the two piercings you mention are where I think they are, be very cautious.

Finally, and being really snarky here, but only partly in jest, if you're not sure about your hubby's reasons, why not ask him to get a matching set along with you? You could go together, make it a date. Now THAT would test his motivation...

Good luck, I hope this all works out well for you both. Keeping a marriage fresh is a good thing, and being sexy for your man alone is a good thing. Oh! and hold out for diamond piercing jewelry!

[movie zombie]

no, I would not consider it.

further, I think it unreasonable to ask you to pierce for his birthday.
more reasonable would be him saying, "honey, i'm thinking of getting some body piercings done as a birthday present to myself.....would it be a turn off if I had "x" and "y" pierced?"

and I like Bonnie's idea that the two of you go together and get a piercing.....

this falls into the "please me by changing yourself" category, imo, and that's a really hard path to get off of once on it.

and while it would be "for his eyes only" you'll be making dr visits, trying on clothing in dressing rooms, passing through metal detectors if flying, etc.

no, I would not consider it.

for the record: I am considering getting a tattoo to please myself.......

[LittleOldLady]

Ouch!

[Glock Girl in CA]

It's too unnatural for my taste. Being a former ER nurse, I've seen what infections can and do crop up in piercings. So, IMO, it isn't aesthetically appealing, and can pose a risk to one's health. He'll get over it.

[2Cute2Shoot]

I don't think there are any moral implications to piercings, and certainly they can be less permanent than tatoos. The one I had, other than my ears, closed up altogether, withing six weeks when I stopped putting in a ring.

But people do judge, based on what they see, for tattoos, piercings, body mods of any sort. I knew an absolutely sweet 60 year old lady in Boston who had nine "CCW"piercings, not counting the usual earlobe ones. She just dug the whole look. If people only knew. For me, some appeal to me and some really don't. Frankly the whole ear-plug-make-huge-holes-in-your-earlobes thing freaks me out. (All I can think of it catching one with a hairbrush....)

The main consideration I would have is safety (really, Bonnie?), that you use an immaculately clean professional shop, not the mall earring store. Go visit, get references. People do get infections...

Bear in mind that if you pierce particularly sensitive areas, you can loose feeling there, maybe permanently. This is a fact, I know two women it happened to personally, to their extreme sorrow. It has to do with hitting invisible neves, during the piercing process. If the two piercings you mention are where I think they are, be very cautious.

Finally, and being really snarky here, but only partly in jest, if you're not sure about your hubby's reasons, why not ask him to get a matching set along with you? You could go together, make it a date. Now THAT would test his motivation...

Good luck, I hope this all works out well for you both. Keeping a marriage fresh is a good thing, and being sexy for your man alone is a good thing. Oh! and hold out for diamond piercing jewelry!

It's too unnatural for my taste. Being a former ER nurse, I've seen what infections can and do crop up in piercings. So, IMO, it isn't aesthetically appealing, and can pose a risk to one's health. He'll get over it.

OMG BonnieB & Glock Girl...i thought u two were totally lying but i looked it up online and it's true! First of all just the basic...that u can go to a mall jeweler to get pierced (which i did for my earrings) and get infected or scared or even get an STD!!!

BonnieB, i was also looking online for losing sensation in those areas and I did not see this, but it sounds possible so would you mind pm'ing me a link if you know it? I happen to really like having sensation there

[zfields]

Coming from a guy here...


It comes off as a bit manipulative to ask you to do it for his birthday.


Just sayin'.

[4DMASTR]

As a man, I love them on ladies. I see no issue with him asking, but I also see no issue with you telling him you do not want to.

[2Cute2Shoot]

no, I would not consider it

this falls into the "please me by changing yourself" category, imo, and that's a really hard path to get off of once on it.

and while it would be "for his eyes only" you'll be making dr visits, trying on clothing in dressing rooms, passing through metal detectors if flying, etc..

Thanks movie zombie. I think you are totally right about one spouse asking another to change themselves. Just that made me making this thread worth it so thank you! There is making each other happy and asking each other to change. And OMG..I totally did not even think about going to the doctor!!! I would so remove them for any of your others, but yuk, my doctor noticing pierce holes!! I would be so embarrassed during an exam if he were to nofice my pierce holes... (how big are they anyway?) I think he would think I was a beatnick.

[bohoki]

if its your tongue say no you will just chip a tooth

if its your nose and belly button it shouldnt hurt too much and look kind of neat

if its your nips run he wants to tie you up in the basement and whip you so run

[Off the Roster]

I'd consider getting a piercing for my guy after he got a vasectomy for my birthday.

If you really have not educated yourself on piercings, i highly recommend it before starting the process. Bellybuttons are a pain to care for and a large % fail.

Piercings, tattoos, and firearms all need to be the idea of the bearer in my book.

[infamous1979]

Kind of weird request, your good looking I'm sure hes into you. On the flip side if you do get pierced and dont like it it will close up. Not like a tattoo that you would have to get removed.

[Librarian]

Consider further full-body or wand metal detectors, at airports and sports/concert venues.

I don't believe anyone actually cares about the piercings, but determining that the alarm is NOT for something forbidden can be a bit more personal than one might wish to share.

[fighter4cage]

A friend of mine got a nipple piercing. Two weeks later he was taken to the hospital with a raging fever. He Almost died.
To save his life, most of the pectoral muscles on his left side were removed due to the infection.

Do not take the chance, It is not worth it..... "Tell your husband to go get a Prince Albert first" I am sure he will drop the request ! LOL !!!!

[2Cute2Shoot]

if its your tongue say no you will just chip a tooth

if its your nose and belly button it shouldnt hurt too much and look kind of neat

if its your nips run he wants to tie you up in the basement and whip you so run

LOL...that's what I'm scared of