Sad scenes

[IA300]

Finding the balance of what to share with your spouse, and what to share with others is key to having a successful marriage.

If you hold too much back, or share too much, they can sometimes be unable to handle the info.

Great advice, I recently had a murder case where a POS and his girlfriend kicked and killed his 5 year old daughter, no way the wife could handle any of it. Took me a while and many heavy bag therapy sessions to get to the point I could sleep well again.

[richard chese]

Reading the previous posts brought tears to my eye. I commend each one of you for the jobs you do.

People I know want to rail against authority, but they never see this side.

Thanks for your service, ladies and gentlemen.

[Medics197]

i'm not a leo but i work on an ambulance running 911 calls. i've been stationed in whittier and surrounding cities, costa mesa, and now currently anaheim hills.

so anyways i've seen some stuff and i can say i've come close once honestly to crying had tears forming in my eyes and that call was for an 8 year old boy playing basketball collapsed and we transported to the hospital where he didn't make it. later found out he had an enlarged heart and there was nothing that could have saved him unless it was prior to his death. it still bothers me today and i can see the image of the boy laying on the ground.

i've had other incidents like a 4 year old choked on a pretzel and parents brought him to our station we took him, kid was called at the hopsital and watching the mother scream in agony as they told her. i to this day can remember picture perfect what she looked liked and the sound of her screams. that was 5 years ago.

even kids (well 18-22 year olds) bother me when i run on them for what is usually always a heroine overdose, wheels start turning in my head thinking the big picture these parents are going to get a call from someone saying your child is dead, maybe that 20 year old had a kid god forbid. there's a lot of hurt to someone's death. one of the worst related to this is... in costa mesa go to a over dose find a 20 year old girl in a residence. she was thrown out by her parents due to heroine use. we found her in the door way of a bathroom naked with 3 guys whom were all users. later as i had obviously suspected. these 3 guys took her in pumped her full of heroine and raped her numerous times.

honestly in my opinion there's just gonna be those ***** calls that are going to bother you even going to stress debriefings, it's gonna haunt you. the main thing is for me is yeah we get those that don't make it but we save ten fold what we lose.

[Ron-Solo]

Definitely take advantage of peer support or Department Crisis Counselors. It doesn't mean you are crazy, and it helps you process things. Sometimes you are just on sensory overload and need help sorting thru the mess.

[Borrego4746]

On training FTO and I arrived on scene to a quadruple fatal.. Damn drunk driver and his friends failed to stop at the sign and plowed into a famil car. 3 year old decapitated thrown 100 feet, his lil brother thrown 150 feet mutilated and his mother smashed into the passenger seat with her new born baby.

The screams from the father could be heard over the sirens of arriving units. I was 22 and brand new so it hit me but not to close where I lost sleep.. In retrospect now that I'm 27 and have a 2 and 3 yea old,

I would have had to fight back tears.

[BigStiCK]

Finding the balance of what to share with your spouse, and what to share with others is key to having a successful marriage.

If you hold too much back, or share too much, they can sometimes be unable to handle the info.

Avoiding the donut dollies helps too. Keep the zipper up.

^^^^This^^^^

[JWHuey]

This

thank you

Reading the previous posts brought tears to my eye. I commend each one of you for the jobs you do.

People I know want to rail against authority, but they never see this side.

Thanks for your service, ladies and gentlemen.

[esy]

there are not enough "thank yous" that can be said to all the men and women in Law Enforcement, Fire, EMS, Dispatch, etc., but thank you!

as i start my path to get into SSD, i've already begun preparing myself for what i will encounter even more so. i've had several years working as an RN intern and as an EMT in a hospital ER, but still no where near what you folks have done.

again, thank you all!