Talking Smack to Kids

[wahzoo]

Can you guys help me out? My two boys are 13 & 15 and there is an adult who lives a few houses away from us who is in his 30's who has talked trash to my kids three times when they were in our front yard minding their own business. I know who he is, seen him around, but neither me or my wife have never said so much as a word to this guy. We don't live in the greatest of areas and do our best to stay to ourselves.

I think the guy is a thug and I have seen him selling dope on our street.

What should I do?

[Samuelx]

Which problem are you wanting to address and what do you want accomplished? Sounds like the drug dealing is OK as long as he leaves you and your family alone??

[wahzoo]

I don't want any problems, just want to be left alone... Need a solution though, I am worried this idiot may do something stupid. Is there any law against harassing kids?

[bill_k_lopez]

In my experience its impossible to get rid of dirtbag neighbors - because being a dirtbag isn't illegal. Now I know you said he's selling drugs, but are you SURE thats whats going on? Because it sounds to me like you just THINK he's selling drugs - and you just threw that in there to help support the idea that you think he's a dirtbag and he's talked trash to your kids.

Its also been my experience that 13 & 15 year olds can do a lot of shi* to get themselves talked trash to. I'm not saying this is the case with your kids, but there is always two sides to every story.

Have you ever confronted this guy yourself -introduced yourself and said "Hi I'm Samulex, your neighbor from down the street - I heard my boys might have caused some problems for you?" and go from there? That would be the most civil thing to do - rather than jumping to conclusions - I mean, maybe the guy has a legitimate gripe - maybe the guy tells you to go f' yourself. At least you'll get a straight answer as to what is really going on. You don't have to be confrontational - just ask, and listen. If he's a complete a--hole, then you know where you stand with him and then you have to move ahead with other options.

[wahzoo]

I'm not going to talk to this guy, it will just lead to more problems. Yes i'm 100% positive hes dealing, but hes not the only one. Guy across the street got a raid thrown on him and he's a nice guy, decent neighbor, except for all the extra traffic he brings. Adult living with his parents behind us deals too. Tenant next door was dealing and partiying, but thank goodness he stopped paying his rent and got evicted.

Is there a LEO on here who knows of a law or section that would cover this situation?

[bill_k_lopez]

I'm not going to talk to this guy, it will just lead to more problems. Yes i'm 100% positive hes dealing, but hes not the only one. Guy across the street got a raid thrown on him and he's a nice guy, decent neighbor, except for all the extra traffic he brings. Adult living with his parents behind us deals too. Tenant next door was dealing and partiying, but thank goodness he stopped paying his rent and got evicted.

So then, you've got two choices - put up with it or leave. If you think your kids/family are in danger then leave immediately - I don't care what kind of financial loss you'd take, or how hard it would be - you get out.

If its just a cra*y place to live, then start planning your escape and get out as soon as possible.

For my kids or my family - I'd pack up and leave in a second if I felt they were in danger. I'd let the bank foreclose on the house, I'd file BK - who cares at that point.

If you're renting there is no excuse. Pack up and leave as soon as possible.

[Roddd]

If you see him doing it, you can call the police and tell them there's a verbal disturbance between your juvenile children and an adult. They can come out and talk to the three of them. If you suspect he is dealing, notify LE and tell them. You can give them plate numbers off the cars who you suspect are buying from him, but don't get caught doing it. We've made undercover buys that way that turn into felony convictions.

[Samuelx]

Is there a LEO on here who knows of a law or section that would cover this situation?

Since you condone drug dealing, you would only be getting the Bare Minimum effort from me with any/all of your kids' problems with those drug dealers...

[GuillermoAntonio]

I don't want any problems, just want to be left alone... Need a solution though, I am worried this idiot may do something stupid. Is there any law against harassing kids?

WTHHHH! are you doing living with teenage kids in a drug infested neighborhood?
Forget about kicking the guy out of the neighborhood and kick yourself out, i bet you If he leaves the next guy wont be any better!

[G1500]

Move. Why would you be there if it is so bad?

[Samuelx]

He doesn't mind all the drug using/dealing criminal activity, it's the TRASH TALKING that he can't stand!

[DNA]

Sounds like you live in my neighborhood...

Any shootings recently?

Why not just go and talk to the guy?

Dan

[Subotai]

wahzoo, you should try to move. Guys like that will only press it if you jump in his face. He will also continue to mess with your kids as they get older. Don't risk it.

[tyrist]

I'm not going to talk to this guy, it will just lead to more problems. Yes i'm 100% positive hes dealing, but hes not the only one. Guy across the street got a raid thrown on him and he's a nice guy, decent neighbor, except for all the extra traffic he brings. Adult living with his parents behind us deals too. Tenant next door was dealing and partiying, but thank goodness he stopped paying his rent and got evicted.

Is there a LEO on here who knows of a law or section that would cover this situation?

If you want the problem solved at some point you are going to have to face him in court.

It sounds like you just want the police to anonymously remove him which they cannot. You need to take responsibility for the safety of your neighborhood. The police can and will help but you will have to participate.

[SkyStorm82]

Somebody talking bad to your kids is minor. I'd be more worried about scumbag drug dealers and all the junkie pieces of **** that come into your neighborhood because of it.