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I wanted some insight from those who may have taken a similar path.

I'm 25yrs old, married, and maybe a little one soon too but I want to serve my country and enlist in the Marine Corps Reserve. Under way with docs right now, please chime in and let me know what you think, what I should be prepared for, what should the wife prepare for, etc.?

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If you are joining the reserve, then I would tell them to prepare for poverty. Your monthly drill pay will basically cover your health insurance for your family. Congratulations on the kid. Go active duty for the shortest contact possible, then extend if it works well for your family. If you don't already have an education, trade or career, go for the pogest mos possible and go to school while you're in.
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Kinda off-topic but the CHP is hiring. Great way to serve your community and make a good living with medical & a solid pension.
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You'll certainly need another job on top of the reserves. I'm active but transferring braches soon. Better chance for me to go east coast that way.
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I'm also 25, married and have two kids. It's not impossible like a lot of people are saying. It really depends on your maturity level and mos demands. But being reserves would help minimize the stress of the second.

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If you are joining the reserve, then I would tell them to prepare for poverty. Your monthly drill pay will basically cover your health insurance for your family. Congratulations on the kid. Go active duty for the shortest contact possible, then extend if it works well for your family. If you don't already have an education, trade or career, go for the pogest mos possible and go to school while you're in.
When I got out the army,6 years, I joined the Guard. No medical benefits except while on duty or activated over 30 days. Things have changed a lot.
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They're are plenty of good fathers, not saying I don't want to be one but with I can be that good father and then marine as well? Why not give it a shot? I know it's my timing that makes it difficult but I don't know if I want to live my life with that regret.
As a father who raised 3 kids, I have some sound advice for you. As a man you have a moral and ethical responsibility to raise your kids and be here for them on a daily basis. It's not about what you want and the dreams you feel you need to fulfill, it's about taking responsibility and knowing what your priorities are. Kids grow up fast and they need both mom and dad so they can grow up to be secure, independent and successful adults. The regrets you will have will be not being home to watch your kids grow and experience their development. This should have been your focus when you decided to become a husband and father. You have a college degree and should concentrate on finding a career that will help support your family and
secure their future. Having regrets about not doing certain things in your life is a fact of life as we get older, we have all experienced that. Joining the military is something you should have done when you were younger and single,
The sooner you realize this, the sooner you can evaluate your career options and step up to the plate and begin the process of becoming a devoted, responsible and involved husband and father ..... just my two cents and words of wisdom

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If you are joining the reserve, then I would tell them to prepare for poverty. Your monthly drill pay will basically cover your health insurance for your family. Congratulations on the kid. Go active duty for the shortest contact possible, then extend if it works well for your family. If you don't already have an education, trade or career, go for the pogest mos possible and go to school while you're in.
I agree. I have a friend who at 24 went the reserve route in the Marines. He was so ready to get out after 6 years. Marines is a young mans game in the sense that you are doing hikes with 125 plus pounds in your back pack.
Most of his squad is 18-19 years old. Mres are all you eat. It's a rough tough way of life. My friend is 6'2" and a lean 185. As a fellow vet I have a lot of respect for those who make it.
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Question: I don’t know the USMC standards for becoming a Reserve Officer, but I know the Army Reserves is desperate and selecting OCS candidates with medical waivers and marginal College GPA’s, with marginal Fitness Scores.

As a USAR OCS candidate none of your performance matters. You go into the system KNOWING your unit, and your MOS. So who cares if you graduate bottom of your class, just so long as you graduate.

So what I’m saying is it looks like you’re currently a good candidate for USAR OCS selection.

THAT SAID………………….

I think it’s a good indication of your commitment to service/country if you are willing to consider USAR in the event of not being selected for the USMC.
If you are not willing to accept the USAR in absence of the USMC then you might want to ask yourself honestly: What is your tolerance level of commitment to the USMC?

I understand where you’re at right now. Most of us are on the other side of the mirror wearing the bling. We played the game and jumped through the hoops. Any ego motivation we had has long been sufficiently met. Now we just tolerate it.

I suggest if you’re not willing to consider the USAR if the Marines turn you down you might not be cut out for any of the services in the long haul, effectively just being another Jr. enlisted filling a high turnover billet counting the days until his contract ends.

I know I sound like an Army recruiter, but I enlisted when I was 39 years old.

It was my dream of dreams to be a USAF fighter pilot when I was a little kid. That of course never happened. I wore glasses, and my high school academics were pathetic. I didn’t get an OCS scholarship out of high school, and the chip on my shoulder was too big to enlist.

20 years later my desire to serve outweighed my pride. So instead of enlisting at 18, I enlisted at 39 with a MASTERS DEGREE as an E4, with a willingness to eat at lot of crow (A LOT OF CROW).

At 39 I first went to the USN Reserves. They wouldn’t return my phone calls.

Then I went to the USAR seeking an OCS contract. When I was going down that path the OCS door was shut in my face.

I threw a hail marry enlisting (hoping for a Direct Commission later). With no guarantees, my plan was to do one contract as enlisted, and then get out (the goal to say I did my part).

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If you fail to get into the USMC, and aren’t willing to consider other Branches then your desire to serve your country is outweighed by your desire to call yourself a Marine.

If that’s the case, then what happens to your motivation when you find the commitment to being a Marine sucks once you reached your goal of legitimately seeing yourself in the mirror in a set of Blues?
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Something to Ponder

Question: I don’t know the USMC standards for becoming a Reserve Officer, but I know the Army Reserves is desperate and selecting OCS candidates with medical waivers and marginal College GPA’s, with marginal Fitness Scores.

As a USAR OCS candidate none of your performance matters. You go into the system KNOWING your unit, and your MOS. So who cares if you graduate bottom of your class, just so long as you graduate.

So what I’m saying is it looks like you’re currently a good candidate for USAR OCS selection.

THAT SAID………………….

I think it’s a good indication of your commitment to service/country if you are willing to consider USAR in the event of not being selected for the USMC.
If you are not willing to accept the USAR in absence of the USMC then you might want to ask yourself honestly: What is your tolerance level of commitment to the USMC?

I understand where you’re at right now. Most of us are on the other side of the mirror wearing the bling. We played the game and jumped through the hoops. Any ego motivation we had has long been sufficiently met. Now we just tolerate it.

I suggest if you’re not willing to consider the USAR if the Marines turn you down you might not be cut out for any of the services in the long haul, effectively just being another Jr. enlisted filling a high turnover billet counting the days until his contract ends.

I know I sound like an Army recruiter, but I enlisted when I was 39 years old.

It was my dream of dreams to be a USAF fighter pilot when I was a little kid. That of course never happened. I wore glasses, and my high school academics were pathetic. I didn’t get an OCS scholarship out of high school, and the chip on my shoulder was too big to enlist.

20 years later my desire to serve outweighed my pride. So instead of enlisting at 18, I enlisted at 39 with a MASTERS DEGREE as an E4, with a willingness to eat at lot of crow (A LOT OF CROW).

At 39 I first went to the USN Reserves. They wouldn’t return my phone calls.

Then I went to the USAR seeking an OCS contract. When I was going down that path the OCS door was shut in my face.

I threw a hail marry enlisting (hoping for a Direct Commission later). With no guarantees, my plan was to do one contract as enlisted, and then get out (the goal to say I did my part).

*****

If you fail to get into the USMC, and aren’t willing to consider other Branches then your desire to serve your country is outweighed by your desire to call yourself a Marine.

If that’s the case, then what happens to your motivation when you find the commitment to being a Marine sucks once you reached your goal of legitimately seeing yourself in the mirror in a set of Blues?
To be completely honest, that may be the case for me. As I stated before I was going to delay college for an enlistment with the USMC. My goal now with going enlisted is to give me another shot at the MCOCS and to become an officer in the corps which has been a life long dream.

I'd expect it to suck to some degree and its been almost ingrained in me to embrace that suck whatever it is, but that has also been outweighed by my desire to wear the blues.

And I have thought about the USAR and seeking a commission there. For a while battled between that or enlistment with the USMC but somehow in my mind, enlistment with the USMC then another shot at a commission there edged out over a direct commission with the USAR.
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Yea i hate to break it to you but anything glamorous in the military translates to jack in the mil. I had a POG MOS and I came out better because of it mind you depending on where you are stationed is what is going to make or break the Corp for you. I suggest since you have a kid on the way to try and stay local. (a hard learned lesson my marriage could have survived if i had been stationed in Cali. but I can never say no to free overseas homestays.)

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I say it is always honorable to serve your country no matter the commitment. Reserves is a way to serve (occasionally) many people who join the reserves wish they went active. I will say reserve works much better for families minus the pay. You will still need a good paying job to sustain your family. Make sure you think about what you want to do after the military. You will get out sometime and I remember grunts sitting there saying damn there are no machine gun jobs in the civilian world what am I going to do. Also go to school it should be a Gail to get at least 2 Year’s done by the time you get out. I did 12 years and if I could go back I would have done things a little different.
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I wanted some insight from those who may have taken a similar path.

I'm 25yrs old, married, and maybe a little one soon too but I want to serve my country and enlist in the Marine Corps Reserve. Under way with docs right now, please chime in and let me know what you think, what I should be prepared for, what should the wife prepare for, etc.?

Thank you.
I was older than you when I enlisted in the Army Reserve. I completed my contract, did one OCONUS deployment (non-combat zone), and went to several different countries around the globe on training missions and exercises. I parlayed my military experience into my present full time career while I was still in and juggled both for a few years. I was not attached when I did any of this, but I had no regrets whatsoever. Each person’s experience will vary, but I recommend doing it wholeheartedly.
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A little more info on me. I have my BS in general management and am currently a office manager for a small real estate firm. I tried the officer route but couldn't keep up physically and because of some smaller injuries and was disqual after 3 years in the program. Oso said he see commitment so i can go this route and try again once I'm back from reserves.

Financially I feel that my family will be alright. I know there are other ways to serve but I've always wanted to be a marine and I just can't let this one go as I told my wife.

Plan after is to come back and complete the officers program as a reservist as well so I can take care of my family esp as the eldest son and my wife and kids.
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P.S. Even though Boot Camp and M.O.S. Training are the same for reserves and active duty, you will never be seen as an equal by the AD component. Not a complaint, just a fact. That should not deter you, especially if you take it seriously and conduct yourself in a manner befitting the uniform.
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Thank you for your willingness to serve, and I wish you the best in your quest.
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It's still an 8-year hitch for USMCR still isn't it? Depends on where you live if you want to get into a good unit. 4th LAAAD in Pasadena, artillery in Pico Rivera, ANGLICO and artillery at Seal Beach to name a few. I went reserves then active once I figured out swingin' with the Wing was the way to go for my POG ***.
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Be prepared to abandon all your preconceived notions about the USMC, the military, and yourself. If you think you are hot ****, your ego will be your worst enemy.

At 25, you're seven years older than most recruits, and you're going to have a harder time keeping up with them physically. You're going to have to put out 110%, especially I'f you have prior injuries as you say.

If you want to be an officer of Marines, you are going to have to volunteer for everything, and push harder than everyone under your authority. When they are fading, you have to be relentlessly confidant and lead them. Marines expect nothing less of their leaders.

I had the opportunity after enlisting to get an ROTC scholarship. Upon self-reflection, I came to the conclusion that I would make a mediocre Marine officer; I could definitely do the job, but would not excel. I felt that enlisted Marines deserved better than that, so I remained an enlisted man.

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^Gunsmoke's talking square biz' right there Devil Pup. I was 21 when I stepped onto those yellow footprints. I was considered old even at that age. They used to call me "Pope" because I would always preach to my fellow non-rates about how to not F-up or to perhaps suggest a better use of a young Marine's time than writing (shows how old I am) letters to some broad back home that Jody's banging. More will be expected from you because of your age, most especially common sense. Reserve or not, you earn the title just the same. Reserve-asses can be studs just like anyone else.

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Yea I see, thanks gunsmoke50. But no i dont think im some sort of hotshot or anything of the like. I do know that I maybe a little slower than those younger guys but Ill be able to more than make up for that. Appreciate the honest reflection and insight as well.

The day will come when i can "Semper Fi" you as well, in the meantime kill!
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I wanted some insight from those who may have taken a similar path.

I'm 25yrs old, married, and maybe a little one soon too but I want to serve my country and enlist in the Marine Corps Reserve. Under way with docs right now, please chime in and let me know what you think, what I should be prepared for, what should the wife prepare for, etc.?

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Why are you doing this to your family?
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It's something I've always wanted to do and I refuse to be that "could have" guy. It's was a tough decision but I believe it will work out.
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Why are you doing this to your family?
I'm gonna get flamed for this, but I agree with the above 1000%. I hate to say it OP, but you are being selfish.
You have a WIFE and a BABY and they come first ALWAYS.

Your dreams of being a Marine sailed when you knocked her up (honestly when you got married, and devoted your life to another individual).
Take BigStick's advice and go CHP and make a good living and support your family and retire WELL, AND serve the community.

You have no business going out on deployments when you have a child to raise. It would be different if you were already a professional soldier when you got hitched and had a child. But you are not, and is doing that going to be in the best interests of your family and child?

People may flame me for being unPatriotic, but honestly America NEEDS well-raised children A LOT MORE than it needs reserve soldiers....

CHP / Law Enforcement serves America a lot more than military IMO, in some crappy country, helping some crappy people that hate us....making the military industrial complex rich, oil companies rich, over pointless wars...Why are we in Iraq again? Why are we in Afghanistan? Exactly. Make a difference at home, where it actually matters, where your FAMILY lives, not some backwards dirtbags who hate you.

NO disrespect meant to vets or soldiers, but the truth is the truth. Don't let misguided patriotism cause you to make choices which are not in the best interests of your wife and child. Family FIRST.
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I'm gonna get flamed for this, but I agree with the above 1000%. I hate to say it OP, but you are being selfish.
You have a WIFE and a BABY and they come first ALWAYS.

Your dreams of being a Marine sailed when you knocked her up (honestly when you got married, and devoted your life to another individual).
Take BigStick's advice and go CHP and make a good living and support your family and retire WELL, AND serve the community.

You have no business going out on deployments when you have a child to raise. It would be different if you were already a professional soldier when you got hitched and had a child. But you are not, and is doing that going to be in the best interests of your family and child?

People may flame me for being unPatriotic, but honestly America NEEDS well-raised children A LOT MORE than it needs reserve soldiers....

CHP / Law Enforcement serves America a lot more than military IMO, in some crappy country, helping some crappy people that hate us....making the military industrial complex rich, oil companies rich, over pointless wars...Why are we in Iraq again? Why are we in Afghanistan? Exactly. Make a difference at home, where it actually matters, where your FAMILY lives, not some backwards dirtbags who hate you.

NO disrespect meant to vets or soldiers, but the truth is the truth. Don't let misguided patriotism cause you to make choices which are not in the best interests of your wife and child. Family FIRST.
I would agree with this. Be a father to your child, be a great husband to your wife, i’d have more respect for a guy who served his community feeding the poor and being a great father to their child than a guy who left his child for his wife to raise while he goes off somewhere living out his dream.
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I would agree with this. Be a father to your child, be a great husband to your wife, i’d have more respect for a guy who served his community feeding the poor and being a great father to their child than a guy who left his child for his wife to raise while he goes off somewhere living out his dream.
What am I? The 5th or 6th? 100% agree with Hunterb.

I agree. In all honesty, it sounds like you missed the bus. Things may play out alright for you if you go(despite the massive strain on all relationships). But as many of us have seen, that life isn't easy even on relationships that were established during the military hardships.

In 100% honesty, you're asking to lose what you have. Sometimes the time just isn't right. It's just like how when I went to college as a married man on the GI Bill, I couldn't decide that being a frat boy and living the wild life was something "that I had always wanted to do".... Well I could have decided that, but I would have lost my wife who was faithfully with me through my whole military service. See what I mean?

Edit to add: Don't let your patriotic guilt deter you from being an awesome father and spouse is my point. hunterb hit it on the head. You'd honestly do this country a greater service by raising kids in a wholesome and honest family.
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What am I? The 5th or 6th? 100% agree with Hunterb.

I agree. In all honesty, it sounds like you missed the bus. Things may play out alright for you if you go(despite the massive strain on all relationships). But as many of us have seen, that life isn't easy even on relationships that were established during the military hardships.

In 100% honesty, you're asking to lose what you have. Sometimes the time just isn't right. It's just like how when I went to college as a married man on the GI Bill, I couldn't decide that being a frat boy and living the wild life was something "that I had always wanted to do".... Well I could have decided that, but I would have lost my wife who was faithfully with me through my whole military service. See what I mean?

Edit to add: Don't let your patriotic guilt deter you from being an awesome father and spouse is my point. hunterb hit it on the head. You'd honestly do this country a greater service by raising kids in a wholesome and honest family.
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I'm gonna get flamed for this, but I agree with the above 1000%. I hate to say it OP, but you are being selfish.
You have a WIFE and a BABY and they come first ALWAYS.

Your dreams of being a Marine sailed when you knocked her up (honestly when you got married, and devoted your life to another individual).
Take BigStick's advice and go CHP and make a good living and support your family and retire WELL, AND serve the community.

You have no business going out on deployments when you have a child to raise. It would be different if you were already a professional soldier when you got hitched and had a child. But you are not, and is doing that going to be in the best interests of your family and child?

People may flame me for being unPatriotic, but honestly America NEEDS well-raised children A LOT MORE than it needs reserve soldiers....

CHP / Law Enforcement serves America a lot more than military IMO, in some crappy country, helping some crappy people that hate us....making the military industrial complex rich, oil companies rich, over pointless wars...Why are we in Iraq again? Why are we in Afghanistan? Exactly. Make a difference at home, where it actually matters, where your FAMILY lives, not some backwards dirtbags who hate you.

NO disrespect meant to vets or soldiers, but the truth is the truth. Don't let misguided patriotism cause you to make choices which are not in the best interests of your wife and child. Family FIRST.
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I'm gonna get flamed for this, but I agree with the above 1000%. I hate to say it OP, but you are being selfish.
You have a WIFE and a BABY and they come first ALWAYS.

Your dreams of being a Marine sailed when you knocked her up (honestly when you got married, and devoted your life to another individual).
Take BigStick's advice and go CHP and make a good living and support your family and retire WELL, AND serve the community.

You have no business going out on deployments when you have a child to raise. It would be different if you were already a professional soldier when you got hitched and had a child. But you are not, and is doing that going to be in the best interests of your family and child?

People may flame me for being unPatriotic, but honestly America NEEDS well-raised children A LOT MORE than it needs reserve soldiers....

CHP / Law Enforcement serves America a lot more than military IMO, in some crappy country, helping some crappy people that hate us....making the military industrial complex rich, oil companies rich, over pointless wars...Why are we in Iraq again? Why are we in Afghanistan? Exactly. Make a difference at home, where it actually matters, where your FAMILY lives, not some backwards dirtbags who hate you.

NO disrespect meant to vets or soldiers, but the truth is the truth. Don't let misguided patriotism cause you to make choices which are not in the best interests of your wife and child. Family FIRST.
Disagree 100% in regards to military.. You obviously have never served in the military over 20 years or over 30 years or 40 years.. You wouldn’t be saying that at all. I am sorry but local police and especially CHP are a complete joke. Every state police agency I have worked with say this about CHP and I see the bs they do day to day. Less work and responsibility IMO. That’s why so many are overweight in SoCal. They are always hanging out at Starbucks in my area. That’s a fact.
Starbucks is a death sentence. High BP and high glucose levels are common with Starbucks not to mention caffeine.

Any traffic police officer is equal to an E4 in the military. I was an E7 in charge of 2 CHP SGTs when they were activated. I told them their civilian police job doesn’t mean **** in the real military. And they were both E5s in service.

I do agree with you on family. Family is always first and the US Navy and US Coast Guard has put family first as of 2015.
He can easily choose a different service where he can do office work.
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Disagree 100% in regards to military.. You obviously have never served in the military over 20 years or over 30 years or 40 years.. You wouldn’t be saying that at all. I am sorry but local police and especially CHP are a complete joke. Every state police agency I have worked with say this about CHP and I see the bs they do day to day. Less work and responsibility IMO. That’s why so many are overweight in SoCal. They are always hanging out at Starbucks in my area. That’s a fact.
Starbucks is a death sentence. High BP and high glucose levels are common with Starbucks not to mention caffeine.
Whoa, someone's got a chip on their shoulder. You flaunt your military experience (what ever that may be), but you obviously have not served any considerable amount of time in law enforcement.

The military and law enforcement are both vital aspects of the safety and quality of life we enjoy in the United States. Either one is an honorable profession.

I'm also interested in hearing if the OP has made a decision. I'm in the camp that believes his responsibility is to his family now, and enlisting this late in life with so many responsibilities already on his shoulders is not a good decision.
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Whoa, someone's got a chip on their shoulder. You flaunt your military experience (what ever that may be), but you obviously have not served any considerable amount of time in law enforcement.
Not being LE, but military, I presume both are much the same in that there are LEOs from Los Altos, CA sitting comfortably at Starbucks just like a FOBbit, and those that are L.A. SWAT ready to kick the doors in of a gang house similar to an Alpha Team ready to hit a HVT somewhere in Afghanistan.
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I see what you guys are saying, and I appreciate the input. It's been something I've always wanted to be and in high school my pops told me to go to college first, went to college, heck was going to enlist half way in cause the recruiter told me I'd be back for next semester. Then had to take care of my parents and siblings (eldest son) now done with college but married and have to take care of wife and kid.

When the oso gave us the speech that this ain't for everybody I never felt like that was to me.
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I work for the CA Dept. of Corrections as a CO. There are quite a few former military working with me and many that are in the reserves. CDC or CHP would work out well for doing reserves. Your job is safe, no resentment and you even keep earning seniority if on deployment. I suspect that you missed the boat for full time military. Get a good job (CDC & CHP are both hiring) and play in the reserves. Take care of your family first. The CDC & CHP pay and benies are top shelf.
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I work for the CA Dept. of Corrections as a CO. There are quite a few former military working with me and many that are in the reserves. CDC or CHP would work out well for doing reserves. Your job is safe, no resentment and you even keep earning seniority if on deployment. I suspect that you missed the boat for full time military. Get a good job (CDC & CHP are both hiring) and play in the reserves. Take care of your family first. The CDC & CHP pay and benies are top shelf.
This is good advice.

I haven't served, but I have seen several friends' families while the men were overseas. It's hell. Even worse, it's hell that they suffer completely alone because they don't want to "make him worry" by saying anything.

Your wife wants you at home.

Your child wants you at home.

Be patriotic by being a good father.
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Dude you should just go Active.. your Wife and your baby will be taken care of. not to mention the pay is way better. Score high on the ASVAB and choose any job you want.
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Having a new kid, and being a Reserve Officer/Company Commander is a mother f-ing pain in the ***.

Granted, I stepped in this while I was single, and commissioned before the kid came along, but then then kid came along, and I barely squeezed in my MOS officer training. He was born two weeks before I graduated, and I managed to juggle bringing the lady out to Virginia and having the kid born (took a day off class).

I naively took company command as a new 1LT, and I'm being bombarded every single day with things to sign, memos, discharges, inventory things, it goes on and on and on.

The USAR would place me on 102 days worth of orders, and training (none of which pays BAH), and 70+ of them are on weekdays that eat into work.

All I'm praying for is I get through this period of my reserve officer career, and then find a staff position in a unit that isn't my primary MOS (meaning I'm not driving the primary mission, and I'm along in support of them).

I'm making it work, and it's hard enough with just post TRADOC training demands.

I couldn't imagine having to deal with TRADOC in conflict with a kid/family needing me there.

If you enlist you'll certainly understand what I'm trying to convey. Then remember, your TRADOC experience starts all over again if you go officer.
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I will be the voice of dissent here against the naysayers. If everyone who had kids and domestic commitments opted out of military service, the entire country would be up a creek.

There is a separation aspect that cannot be overlooked. There is a tipping point in the early days of boot camp where you become overwhelmed with dread, homesickness, and a strong desire to GTFO of there. Thankfully, nearly everyone gets past that and accepts their new reality of highly regimented and unrelenting misery. But then it is over before you know it, and before too long, you start getting treated like a real person again.

Going now will be easier than later, as you get older and slower and your family demands grow. If it is eating at you to serve, and you don't, you will harbor regret for life. In some cases, that regret unfairly manifests itself into resentment against those factors that kept you from serving. You don't want that.

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I will be the voice of dissent here against the naysayers. If everyone who had kids and domestic commitments opted out of military service, the entire country would be up a creek.

There is a separation aspect that cannot be overlooked. There is a tipping point in the early days of boot camp where you become overwhelmed with dread, homesickness, and a strong desire to GTFO of there. Thankfully, nearly everyone gets past that and accepts their new reality of highly regimented and unrelenting misery. But then it is over before you know it, and before too long, you start getting treated like a real person again.

Going now will be easier than later, as you get older and slower and your family demands grow. If it is eating at you to serve, and you don't, you will harbor regret for life. In some cases, that regret unfairly manifests itself into resentment against those factors that kept you from serving. You don't want that.

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I agree with this. And don't be that guy that uses having a wife or kid to try to get out of everything and screws those that don't.
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I will be the voice of dissent here against the naysayers. If everyone who had kids and domestic commitments opted out of military service, the entire country would be up a creek.

There is a separation aspect that cannot be overlooked. There is a tipping point in the early days of boot camp where you become overwhelmed with dread, homesickness, and a strong desire to GTFO of there. Thankfully, nearly everyone gets past that and accepts their new reality of highly regimented and unrelenting misery. But then it is over before you know it, and before too long, you start getting treated like a real person again.

Going now will be easier than later, as you get older and slower and your family demands grow. If it is eating at you to serve, and you don't, you will harbor regret for life. In some cases, that regret unfairly manifests itself into resentment against those factors that kept you from serving. You don't want that.

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I understand both points of view but this is how i feel now. Say I dont go, maybe that regret will fade one day maybe not but if i do go I will not regret, my wife is on board. Yes, things can change but only time will tell. Heck i might not even make it through meps for having eczema and asthma as a kid, whatever the case is now would be the time, past this...another kid comes along, ill be in my 30s, life will be flying by plus the regret for sure.

ATM i have grandma and grandpa at home that can help with the kid, a little brother and other means of family support.
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