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What is "the wife" ?
Can someone explain to me why guys refer to their SO as "the wife"?
Why not "Sandy", "Sandy, my wife", "BW", "my wife"? What is a "THE wife". Do they have the only wife in existence? I ask because I've never heard a woman say "THE husband". (for those that don't know, HH is for handsome hubbie, BW is for beautiful wife).
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I refer to my bride of 39 years as, well, my bride.
So, I can't answer your question.
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ah, we have a romantic!
many could learn from you, drdarrin! the wife = the old ball and chain..... sounds much the same to my ear.
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"The Wife" sounds a lot nicer than "The *****"?
Not sure about this, I don't refer to my wife as "the wife" but whatever.
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As far as I am concerned yes, she is the ONLY Wife in existence for me hence the singular reference.
Also why do people refer to their employer as 'the boss' instead of 'my boss'? Same thing, it's just a manner of speaking. My Wife uses this term all the time when referring to me to friends.
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I usually say "my wife," but I am sure that I have used the reference "the wife". The is used for singular and as term of endearment. Imagine how my wife would react if I said "one of my wives..." atleast if I say "the" it is singular. To me I do not see it as derogatory, the last time I used it went something like this "I have to get going because it is time to eat and the wife is an awesome cook." And that is not a insult saying she is in the kitchen where she belongs. She likes to cook, and I like her cooking and do everything I can to be encouraging. I don't know if anything I just wrote makes any sense, I am not running on much sleep.
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I don't take "the wife" as horribly insulting, but it does seem to "second class" her.
But I do find "my bride" absolutely charming.
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WHAT I HAVE LEARNED SO FAR, MOSTLY THE HARD WAY • Do only safe sex. Never have sex with someone crazier than you are. • Don't marry or move in together before you're both at least 25. • Don't have children until you're married five years or at least age 30. • Put 10% of your salary into savings every month no matter how broke you are. • Don't ever screw around with the IRS. • Keep a handgun on your bedside table. • Don't smart-mouth judges, or cops who stop you on the road. |
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I don't have an opinion on "the wife" but I have never heard my husband refer to me as that and I know I have never referred to him as "the husband". He has a name and so do I. If he chooses not to use my given name, he can refer to me as The Goddess. LOL
Now my sister and I used to get irritated at our Uncle David because when he would talk to us and talk about our sons, he would refer to them as "the boy" whoever he was talking about. They were all interchangeable as "the boy" and we used to think he just didn't like them(my Uncle is pretty ornery so it wouldn't be unusual) until his only grandson was born and he DOTES upon that little boy and he calls him, yep you guessed it, "the boy". LOL |
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Dagnabit, no more posting for drdarrin. He's making the rest of us look bad. Kest, BAN him!
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DrDarrin for WF Poster Boy!
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WHAT I HAVE LEARNED SO FAR, MOSTLY THE HARD WAY • Do only safe sex. Never have sex with someone crazier than you are. • Don't marry or move in together before you're both at least 25. • Don't have children until you're married five years or at least age 30. • Put 10% of your salary into savings every month no matter how broke you are. • Don't ever screw around with the IRS. • Keep a handgun on your bedside table. • Don't smart-mouth judges, or cops who stop you on the road. |
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I actually refer to my bf as "the bf" ("went to the range and tested out the bf's new ar" etc). Never really gave it much thought.
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Sent from my Incredible 2
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Maybe the male mind needs Position in space
I'm in the house with The wife watching The TV Who am I ? The husband.
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I don't know if she's OK with me using her name in an online forum, so I don't. I'm also not going to ask, "Is it OK if I use your name when I talk about or refer to you online?" Maybe you all don't care, I don't know. I'd rather not find out afterwards that you do
I try to use "the Mrs." though, if that's any better?
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i don't share him so its "my" NOT "the" husband.........
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Man rule #72: Never call the wife "my old lady" in front of her or her friends.
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As a non-native English speaker, the term stuck out to me as well because it's a little strange... Anyway, my inference is that this is just a way for men to refer to their wives. I bet most don't give it much thought really. I think that it's like if a lot of people refer to something or someone in a certain way, it sticks. I don't assume there is any put-down intended.
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i.e., "Let me check with the wife first..." |
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Well what about married people who refer to each other as "Mother" or "Father"? "We'll have to see what Mother says". Or all the way back to Gone With the Wind... "We'll have to see what Mrs. O'hara says" in speaking about his wife.
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A Romantic... Only to my bride!
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Bugs, you changed your Avatar! I didn't recognize you!
LOL madly. My mother referred to my father as "Daddy", even to his face. I remember blowing up at about 9 years old, saying " He's MY daddy, Mum, not yours!" And I just remembered my mother flinching when I referred to my boyfriend-du-jour as "my lover". And the 'du-jour' thing was much more belittling than the lover part.... I was engaged once to a man who was a career Army man. And I addressed him as "Major", but only in bed.... Such a hot topic, how we address and refer to our loved ones.
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WHAT I HAVE LEARNED SO FAR, MOSTLY THE HARD WAY • Do only safe sex. Never have sex with someone crazier than you are. • Don't marry or move in together before you're both at least 25. • Don't have children until you're married five years or at least age 30. • Put 10% of your salary into savings every month no matter how broke you are. • Don't ever screw around with the IRS. • Keep a handgun on your bedside table. • Don't smart-mouth judges, or cops who stop you on the road. |
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The term "the wife" shouldn't really bother anyone. Your wife is your life long partner and best friend. If you're in an unhappy marriage or something and referring to her as "the wife" then maybe there is something to it.
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There are some oddly-socialized women who object to the 'possessive' aspect of the word 'my'. They are often identifiable by their peculiar spellings of common words in written communications, e.g 'herstory', 'womyn'.
That said, I never refer to my wife as 'the wife'.
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I call my significant other 'the other half'.
Does that count?
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I have not heard personally any women I know tell me being called "the wife" makes them feel "second class". My wife sometimes refers to me as "the husband" and that makes me feel good, not lowered. However it is rarely said by either of us and if done usually said with a smile while joking around. Then as I say, that is how I interpret my own feelings about it.
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All this made me think of this joke:
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OMG, i have to admit i LOL at that one, Laythor........!
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Personally, I prefer "she who must be obeyed"
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