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View Poll Results: If I found dirty pics of another woman my husband had had sex with on his phone, I'd | |||
kick him out for a few days to think | 12 | 15.79% | |
fill out divorce papers, but not file right away | 6 | 7.89% | |
file for divorce right away | 41 | 53.95% | |
forgive and forget | 17 | 22.37% | |
Voters: 76. You may not vote on this poll |
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Why is castration not an option in your poll?
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First thing to do is step back and take a good long think about wether this is the hill you are willing to die on.
Everyone's temperament and circumstances are different. If there are young children involved their wellbeing should come first. PS: Be sure it is what you think it is. There is some really raunchy stuff that gos around on cell phones.
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You are a moron if you stay with him.
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My wife (while holding tight to a certain part of me) said "file for divorce right away and cut this thing off!!!"
This is why I do not take pic's. LOL j/k
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A dad like that is not a good influence on the kids, unless of course we all agree that lies are the fundamental basis for a healthy relationship.
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make him do penance to see the strength of his convictions... ie: have him try slaa (sex love addicts anonymous) a 12 step program. you will see if it was just a mistake on his part or whether hes just not that into commitment
ps its free
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My wife said she'd "file for divorce right away".
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So, you should tell your spouse you cheated? And that is going to benefit her how?
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He had sex with this women in the past? Before you?
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lol aren't you a guy?
I have trouble conceptualizing a guy suggesting that to a woman lol
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Hope it's not a prenup gotten from the Internet too. I had a past case like that and it didn't hold up in court. People who go cheap for legal matters get cheap results.
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Interesting survey you want to take... my current spouse and I have an understanding about infidelity -- it's not healthy and may cause death. He favors wood chippers and I am a fan of changing the locks on the doors, tossing out personal items of the offending man, and then gleefully setting them on fire on the lawn.
So, we're happily married. He took good notes and remembers what happened to the other guy! |
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This thread makes me sad.
I hope you're doing OK.
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Too difficult for us to give you any advice - I am sure there are history behind this - We don't care fnor are we privy to the info -
Marriage is a work in progress - Do all you can to work it out - Good luck to the both of you and the kids - |
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ditto. but my answer is the quicker he is kicked to the curb and you get on with your life the better. mz
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And that is exactly why you should refrain from giving relationship advice!
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Do you love him? If he is truly sorry and you really feel that it could work out, then forgive. I do want to add that the part that really bothers me is he must have low self esteem, not only for the act, but keeping the act on his phone. I wish you the best.
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Thats really sad. Its such a horrible feeling whenever your love cheats on you. Its never an easy decision...
On a side note. I'm a Taurus, enjoy long walks on the beach, 5'10"...
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Well, if you have access to a gun, why isn't he dead by now?
lol
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Are the pictures of a woman he had sex with BEFORE you two got married? When did he get these pictures? Do they see eachother alot? Does he try to stay away from her?
Take those into consideration, along with many many other things. Either way this is a tough situation and it really is too bad you are going through this.
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As to the rest of you, we are going to try counseling and see if we can get our marriage back on track. Thank you for all the input! |
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i was a jerk to my wife, and we did counseling together, and she did her own counseling, and i did my own counseling and it really helped us. i told her when she wanted me to do counseling "if we fix our marriage and dont fix ourselves its not gonna work." I confidently feel you dont need to go for 20 years, but more tools in your toolbox sure never hurts. good luck. the sincerest best of wishes
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I hope you both find what you need.
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yes we did, that was over 1 1/2 years ago and we are stronger than ever
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Aren't we both judgemental and presumptuous?
Firstly, the OP did not say "...had sex with while married..." Secondly (even if adultery is the sin in question), while not necessarily an option in all circumstances, forgiveness and commitment to rebuilding is nonetheless a valid (and correct) one for many. It is offensive to assert that those who work through human failures are "morons". Obviously, counseling is likely in order- both as a couple and each as individuals. He would be wise to work on the underlying cause of his holding onto the past, and she now must find a reason to trust him. If this was not a hypothetical I am truly sorry to hear of this sad and unfortunate situation.
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This is a website for responsible gun owners- how is this funny?
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Once a sinner, always a sinner- true. Unfortunately, humankind in its entirety suffers from this terminal condition. However, we do have the wonderful power of reason and choice (unless, of course, a serious mental condition prohibits such) and can overcome this propensity for evil.
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My "lol" means "Don't take this suggestion seriously." But you did. Oh well. And here's another clue: Gender differences when it comes to sex, infidelity and revenge are marked in that men tend to kill their "loved" ones. Women get even in other ways, like getting higher alimony or waging bitter child custody battles.
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And honestly I don't frequent this so-called Ladies forum because all too many men post here.
Do we really need men's input all that much, esp. when questions are specifically being asked of women but answered by men who don't have a clue?
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Let's not turn this into a gender war- no reason to throw stones.
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Not sure where vengeance was mentioned by the OP or where they requested input on how to "get even"- again, to exacerbate an already delicate and hurtful situation will only bring about more hurt and destruction.
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I'm sad to hear about the OPs situation - they're both calgunners, to boot. But... Sometimes humor is a good thing. I kept track of the thread in hopes things improved for the OP. I'm glad to hear there's been progress.
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