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Old 11-13-2017, 2:47 PM
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I hope the title was catchy enough to get some help and advice. My anniversary is coming up and we are planning on a day trip to Julian, just outside of San Diego. I come from a gun loving family, hers are more conservative when it comes to firearms (they dont "hate" guns, they just dont dont see a need for most people to own, they live in low crime region). She is open to exposing herself to firearms, I want to teach her to to shoot or at least try to since she is willing. I want to find a place outdoors (forget the indoor ranges, even those places scare me when they are busy with shooters who dont know how to keep their gun pointed downrange. Is anyone willing to share a nice outdoor spot I can teach my wife to shoot? I at off the 8 and 15, and we like to go to Julian, so somewhere in that general area would be great. Specific directions would be much appreciated, I always keep shooting spots cleaner then when I arrived but I am from another part of the state so need a new spot to shoot.
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Old 11-13-2017, 2:53 PM
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Old 11-13-2017, 2:55 PM
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if she has never shot before, i wouldn't bring her somewhere that can get loud with others shooting. take her to blm land near you and setup cans, steel plates, etc.
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Old 11-13-2017, 3:14 PM
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Depending on your wife. It may be good to have her first experience in a group of women and/or you not being the teacher.

I know there are classes specifically for women but I think the ones which I have seen are mainly at indoor ranges. Not sure of outdoor range offerings
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if she has never shot before, i wouldn't bring her somewhere that can get loud with others shooting. take her to blm land near you and setup cans, steel plates, etc.
I took my wife shooting for the first time.

I practiced with her several times in having a proper stance, grip, and dry fired and racked several times. Over and over again before going until it became more natural.

I think it's more important to go this new range first before taking your wife, and check it out and get familiar with it. You have to be calm and have a non-disrespectful tone of voice, and if you go to a new range, you may be slightly off tilt/balance mentally while teaching your wife.
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It's also important to take pictures, so when anti-gun friends or relatives have an anti-gun moment, having a picture of her shooting will remind her of what it felt like.
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Old 11-13-2017, 3:24 PM
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I would agree that a class would be a better option. Take it with her, just don't try to instruct or correct her, let the instructor(s) do that.
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Old 11-13-2017, 3:36 PM
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Thanks for the advice, we have a amazing relationship. This is something we want to do together by ourselves (anniversary)....
Again, I appreciate all the feedback, I should have mentioned I am looking for a outdoor spot I dont have to pay to use, preferable close to Julian.
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Old 11-13-2017, 3:53 PM
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Thanks for the advice, we have a amazing relationship. This is something we want to do together by ourselves (anniversary)....
Again, I appreciate all the feedback, I should have mentioned I am looking for a outdoor spot I dont have to pay to use, preferable close to Julian.
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Awesome! I don't have any locations to share with you, but I hope you both have a great time. Please report back on how it went!
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Im sorry I forgot to mention for a FREE outdoor spot to shoot, we live by 8 and 15. We go to Julian alot and would like to combine shooting time with trips to Julian.

Thank you!
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Thanks for the advice, we have a amazing relationship. This is something we want to do together by ourselves (anniversary)....
Again, I appreciate all the feedback, I should have mentioned I am looking for a outdoor spot I dont have to pay to use, preferable close to Julian.
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funny story is that my lady and my first date was to dinner and then the gun range. she had shot before as a kid and i let it slip that i just bought a new handgun and was going to pick it up the next day. she said "lets go pick it up and shoot it".

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I don't have a spot for you but I can tell you that "Women on Target" is one of the best things a lady can attend if she is interested in an introduction to firearms.
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Old 11-14-2017, 4:55 AM
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No outdoor shooting locations are open right now in SD. Im pretty sure all are closed right now due to BLM.
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Old 11-14-2017, 5:39 AM
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Invite her to come a A GIRL & A GUN meeting to visit with other gals who like shooting https://www.agirlandagun.org

There is a local chapter out of Vista (Empowered Firearms), and they have a once a month gathering on Saturdays at Rainbow Range (outdoors).

It is a very cool group. They have a FB: https://www.facebook.com/groups/AGAG...?ref=bookmarks
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Also have her check out The Well Armed Woman website...lots to read. Fun videos. Short articles at the intro level.

https://thewellarmedwoman.com
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San Diego County public lands are closed to shooting right now. Closest is Imperial County public lands. I know you said you wanted to do this with just the two of you, but consider "Women on Target" at South Bay Rod & Gun (OUTDOOR RANGE). They start out with 22 caliber pistols and rifles and work their way up to 20 gauge shotguns.

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Old 11-14-2017, 11:29 AM
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A good outdoor range is SD is Southbay Rod and Gun in Dulzura. Kinda the opposite way from where you want to go but well worth the time.

I recommend taking her there.

Talk to the RSO’s and let them know your intentions they will help out.
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Old 11-14-2017, 11:52 AM
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All BLM is for down for fire safety, Southbay Rod & gun is not too far from there and I love to go there. In Alpine there is lemon Grove r&g but it's a private club. I've never been but I've been told it's a fun time. They do free events from time to time. Closest blm that's open is ocotillo Wells. I would recommend South Bay personally, good luck and have fun.
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Old 11-14-2017, 5:07 PM
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I don't have a spot for you but I can tell you that "Women on Target" is one of the best things a lady can attend if she is interested in an introduction to firearms.

Yes to this, and it's held at Escondido Fish and Game and I believe it's free to women. It's a fantastic outdoor facility and the coaching staff is top notch!
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OP, as someone married for 25 years, a piece of advice. DON'T. At most you MIGHT get her to PUT UP with guns. You MIGHT even get her to SHOOT guns with you from time to time, but you likely WON'T get her to LOVE guns.

Think of this the other way. Suppose she wanted to get you to LOVE shopping for shoes, or whatever it is she likes. Sure, you might do it. You might put up with it for her, but you WON'T LOVE it.

Each of you enjoy your own pass times and do things together you both like.
just a pro-tip.
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OP, as someone married for 25 years, a piece of advice. DON'T. At most you MIGHT get her to PUT UP with guns. You MIGHT even get her to SHOOT guns with you from time to time, but you likely WON'T get her to LOVE guns.

Think of this the other way. Suppose she wanted to get you to LOVE shopping for shoes, or whatever it is she likes. Sure, you might do it. You might put up with it for her, but you WON'T LOVE it.

Each of you enjoy your own pass times and do things together you both like.
just a pro-tip.
This right here.

I don’t want my wife to love guns. She knows I like guns and shooting. She knows when I go shoot with friends or myself it’s “me” time. The times she does go shoot is when other couples go.
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you never know who is going to enjoy shooting (or bowling or golfing...)
much of it depends on how quickly they learn and have success.
athletic types might be more naturally inclined, and also more competitive, so they will get more out of feeling proficient at it.

my tip: make it extremely easy at first, and then progressively harder.

then again, some people like to have time away from the spouse, and it defeats the purpose (like many golfers).

i never would have thought my sister in-law, who never shot anything until she was over 50, would like shooting.
she has her own safe now. i don't know how many guns.
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I think you will have to pay for "Women on Target"
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I think you will have to pay for "Women on Target"
Correct you are, it's $30, thanks for the correction.
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Hello All,

Just today I found out, as a recent subscriber to CalGuns, that there is a San Diego Chapter. Look forward to making a post or two in these forums.

My wife and I are retired and getting close to our 7th decade of life; lots of living in us still. We read a-l-o-t. Recently I came upon someone, someone very special that I'd like to tell you about...you may even have heard of him. OP, please bear with me, my reply to your post, regarding your wife, will make a point that she might find somewhat agreeable to.

The great man that I am referring to is Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia; those who have heard of him will also know that his grievous passing occurred a bit over 2 years ago. He was a staunch supporter of our 2nd Amendment rights and just as staunch an opponent of abortion, being a devoted Roman Catholic...as well as an avid hunter, particularly wild turkeys!

Anyway, in the book, "Scalia Speaks", he tells us a story of his growing up in the borough of Queens, in New York City. He used to be on the marksman team at a Jesuit school of Xavier, in Manhattan.

He writes, "...how could you explain our hunting culture to someone from another country? I'm not sure that you can. The hunting culture begins, of course, with a broader culture that it not hostile to firearms. I lived in Queens and took to the subway to my military high school...from Queens to Manhattan with a .22 carbine target rifle. Can you imagine that today, in New York? Look out, there is a boy with a gun!!!!"

In closing, Justice Scalia writes, "...That attitude of associating guns with nothing but crime is what needs to be changed. It's not necessarily a matter of getting your friends into hunting. If you can't get them into hunting, get them into skeet shooting, or anything that shows that guns are not things that are used only by bad people."

"In The Federalist Papers, James Madison speaks contemptuously of the countries of Europe, which he said, "...are afraid to trust their people with arms".

"I hope this country never falls into such a state."

For every negative word from a Feinstein, Pilosi, or anyone else who feels that they know what is good for all Americans, let there be a positive, counter response from a responsible firearm owner. Let them speak loud and clear that we, the American citizens do not need an intermediary to determine for us what we need.

It is we, who already know what our needs are. It is the politicians who must heed, and yield to our demands.
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Plan a vacation around a 4 day defensive handgun class at Front Sight. Awesome time, fun and they really respect the women who come to learn how to shoot a gun. No, it isn't free. But, the important things in life rarely are.
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When you do find a place to shoot. Make it more of an outing. Stop for coffee on the way out of town. Then find a yummy place to have breakfast...like Apple Country Restaurant in Santa Ysabel. Then go shoot for a bit. Or you can skip breakfast and pack a nice pic nic lunch. Then shoot a little more and head home. Or you can pack a nice bottle of wine, some fruit, cheese, etc. For after the guns are put up. She'll think it's romantic and sweet....hopefully. But you get the idea here.

Then you can stop for apple pie on the way home. Because who doesn't like yummy apple pie? But it ends up being a nice day with a nice drive through the mountains and several other things going on besides just shooting. Makes it more fun for her.

And if you can find another couple...and preferably one where the woman really likes to shoot...that's gold. Nothing motivates women like other women. Err...assuming your wife plays well with other women. Not all of them do. I digress.
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Plan a vacation around a 4 day defensive handgun class at Front Sight. Awesome time, fun and they really respect the women who come to learn how to shoot a gun. No, it isn't free. But, the important things in life rarely are.


To the OP, not sure whether you managed to get a location for your anniversary figured out but if you were interested in following XDJYos advice then let me know. Id be willing to give you free course certificates for both of you to go.
If it helps, I may be able to cover a free rental for your wife. That way you only need to worry about your lodging, food and ammunition.

PM me if you are interested.
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