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Old 05-23-2016, 11:42 PM
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Red face I'd like an honest answer Ladies

My guess is that most of the Ladies here already had firearm exposure at some point in their lives. The question I have is for the Ladies that came around. You didn't like them but something made you change your mind. What was it that helped you shift over, to not be afraid. I got into firearms about 2 years ago, my fiancé however, wants no parts of it. I have attempted on different occasions to introduce her to the world of fire arms.

I've come from many angles, from a safety only session, the importance of the 2nd amendment, the importance of personal safety and also how it can also be a stress reliever. I once was able, by some miracle, to get her to a range. I rented her a .22lr handgun for less bang and less percussion. A gentleman in the lane next to us must have been blasting some .45acp. Needless to say, the noise and feel of the blast rattled her nerves and she left me to shoot alone (insert violin).

Is there any advice that the Ladies can give me, I would greatly appreciate it.
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Mistake #1 : you took her to indoor range.
Just live with it and buy more guns for yourself and let her buy shoes and purses .
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Old 05-26-2016, 5:06 PM
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Mistake #1 : you took her to indoor range.
Just live with it and buy more guns for yourself and let her buy shoes and purses .
It was outdoor range, sort of (Oak Tree) I knew not to go indoor because it would have been worse.
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It was outdoor range, sort of (Oak Tree) I knew not to go indoor because it would have been worse.
Damn man , live with it.
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Yep, you need to back off a bit until she is ready to go again......then take her to BLM land where you will be alone.

Hell, make it romantic. A little shooting, then a picnic, some wine, some blanket time.......
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I had children. You see thing differently when you're not just looking out for yourself. I still don't "like" guns or shooting. But I force myself to be proficient and well-trained. It is a tool.

You will never make someone do it, and certainly not make them enjoy it. Male or female.

Shooting was never stress relief for me, I found it to be extremely stressful for a long time. At first because it was so dangerous, I was afraid of mistakes. Later it was stressful because I wanted to shoot well and was frustrated when I didn't. Now it's not stressful, but still not completely pleasant, I don't think I'd even call it fun.

If she's still willing to go with you, that's a start. She's probably mostly trying to be supportive for you. Have her double up on ear protection and keep it simple.
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Yep, you need to back off a bit until she is ready to go again......then take her to BLM land where you will be alone.

Hell, make it romantic. A little shooting, then a picnic, some wine, some blanket time.......
drink booze while shooting thats all we need a new gun person shoot themselves cus their fiance wont wait till she is comfy with it ****ing moron
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drink booze while shooting thats all we need a new gun person shoot themselves cus their fiance wont wait till she is comfy with it ****ing moron
Wait, what?

My post was meant to be funny. You do know what that is.......right? Humor?

Lighten up Francis.
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My wife (who grew up the daughter of a competition shooter) was ok shooting 22 rifles in the desert but was pretty negative about shooting handguns for years.

Until, I had to go out of town and leave her and the kids alone for a week. Before I left I asked her if she wanted me to leave her a loaded gun, just in case. To my surprise she said yes. I left her my mom's 38 snubnose, told her it was pretty much point and shoot. Made her promise to go shooting with me when I got home.

Best thing I did was schedule her with a qualified instructor who has several guns for her to shoot (and stayed out of his way)

Fast forward a few years and she now has CCW in CA, NV, AZ and OR. She owns three handguns and a shotgun. She has completed several different trainings including two classes at FrontSight.

When I asked her what made her decide to get into shooting she said, "Either I go shooting with you or someone else will"

She has been CCW for about 2 years now and it thrilled she can protect herself and the family.
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Wait, what?

My post was meant to be funny. You do know what that is.......right? Humor?

Lighten up Francis.

To my knowledge, the Constitution does not guarantee a right to 'humor'. Free speech, for sure. But any stand-up comedian will tell you, you have no certain expectation of a laugh in return for your remarks....

Play nice, boys....
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To my knowledge, the Constitution does not guarantee a right to 'humor'. Free speech, for sure. But any stand-up comedian will tell you, you have no certain expectation of a laugh in return for your remarks....

Play nice, boys....
before someone calls another a "****ing moron" over the content of an online message that person should be sure he has read AND understands that content.

clearly, in this case he did not.
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drink booze while shooting thats all we need a new gun person shoot themselves cus their fiance wont wait till she is comfy with it ****ing moron
Me and the Mrs. have had plenty of dates where we shoot and then go out to dinner.

The way I read it was that the picnic comes after the shooting. Which is perfectly fine.


/unless the two of you like to live dangerously.
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Yep, you need to back off a bit until she is ready to go again......then take her to BLM land where you will be alone.

Hell, make it romantic. A little shooting, then a picnic, some wine, some blanket time.......
LOL have you ever been out to the desert? picnic in a godforsaken wasteland. ok.
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Intimidation and fear was the number one reason I wanted nothing to do with firearms. My son's however, ended up being avid hunters. I did not want guns in my house when I had kids. I had five kids, three of which were curious boys. So fear really was my biggest enemy.

What changed things for me was my son joining a private gun range. I went out to check it out one day and he convinced me to try trap shooting. Not wanting to be a baby, I decided to give it a try. It only took one clay break to get me hooked.

My husband wanted to buy a shotgun after that and I was not opposed, but nervous about saftey. We negotiated a deal and he agreed to take a firearm saftey class with me. That turned out to be a bit more difficult. Every class I looked into was filled with big burly men. More intimidation. I finally found a woman who was an NRA instructor that did the safety class in her rural home and then did hands on shooting in her back 40. We turned out to be the only students that day. We had a safety class, lunch on her deck and then we shot every gun she owned from shotguns to rifles to hand guns. One week later I bought my first hand gun. My husband and I went out to check out the local public trap, skeet and sporting clays club. Everyone there was very nice and offered to let us shoot. I didn't, but I watched. We talked to the owners and they hooked us up with a female trap instructor. We stupidly just bought a used shotgun and went out to take a lesson. From there, it was all uphill. I entually bought a shotgun that fit me.

Today I have been taking sporting clay lessons from a master class instructor who has become a great friend. I take lessons once a week and have been doing this for over three years. I am hooked! I love shooting clays. Not much of a trap fan, but love the challenge of sporting clays. I shoot no less than twice a week, more if I can fit it in to my schedule.

Take it slow with your girlfriend. Take her to an outdoor competition where females are shooting as well as men. Just watch, don't shoot. Find a female instructor if she shows interest or better yet, let her find a class she feels comfortable with if she decides she want to do a class. Take it with her even if you don't feel you need it. Make it fun and entertaining first. She may get interested if she sees other women shooting. She has to want to try. You can't force it.
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Old 05-26-2016, 9:31 PM
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Intimidation and fear was the number one reason I wanted nothing to do with firearms. My son's however, ended up being avid hunters. I did not want guns in my house when I had kids. I had five kids, three of which were curious boys. So fear really was my biggest enemy.

What changed things for me was my son joining a private gun range. I went out to check it out one day and he convinced me to try trap shooting. Not wanting to be a baby, I decided to give it a try. It only took one clay break to get me hooked.

My husband wanted to buy a shotgun after that and I was not opposed, but nervous about saftey. We negotiated a deal and he agreed to take a firearm saftey class with me. That turned out to be a bit more difficult. Every class I looked into was filled with big burly men. More intimidation. I finally found a woman who was an NRA instructor that did the safety class in her rural home and then did hands on shooting in her back 40. We turned out to be the only students that day. We had a safety class, lunch on her deck and then we shot every gun she owned from shotguns to rifles to hand guns. One week later I bought my first hand gun. My husband and I went out to check out the local public trap, skeet and sporting clays club. Everyone there was very nice and offered to let us shoot. I didn't, but I watched. We talked to the owners and they hooked us up with a female trap instructor. We stupidly just bought a used shotgun and went out to take a lesson. From there, it was all uphill. I entually bought a shotgun that fit me.

Today I have been taking sporting clay lessons from a master class instructor who has become a great friend. I take lessons once a week and have been doing this for over three years. I am hooked! I love shooting clays. Not much of a trap fan, but love the challenge of sporting clays. I shoot no less than twice a week, more if I can fit it in to my schedule.

Take it slow with your girlfriend. Take her to an outdoor competition where females are shooting as well as men. Just watch, don't shoot. Find a female instructor if she shows interest or better yet, let her find a class she feels comfortable with if she decides she want to do a class. Take it with her even if you don't feel you need it. Make it fun and entertaining first. She may get interested if she sees other women shooting. She has to want to try. You can't force it.
Thanks for the encouraging words.
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The more you force it, the more you put her off.
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The more you force it, the more you put her off.
I know, this happened summer last year. I haven't brought up taking her anywhere to shoot in the last few months. I might have come off sounding like I try something every day or week to try to persuade her. I know not to push, been together 7 awesome years to not know any better. Just wanted to know what the reason some have changed their position on the matter.
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The more you force it, the more you put her off.
This, and that's not just for women either.

Go over the safety rules and safe handling away from the range first.
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I have been married 32 years and have known my wife for 38 years. I grew up with guns. Since the age of 11, I always had a loaded rifle in the closet in my room. I was the oldest of 5.

My wife was not comfortable having guns around and when we married, shooting was not a thing we did together, so I kept my rifle hidden away from her.

Years later, and with a 17 year old son, things had changed a lot. For many reasons I got back into shooting. During the intervening years I discovered my wife had changed her mind and did not want any guns in the house. She had given my rifle to her dad for safe keeping. Upset did not begin to describe her attitude when I drove to her parent's house to retrieve my rifle and made it clear to her dad that if he did not hand it over I would call the police and file a theft report. I got it back.

Then when my son turned 18, I bought two .22 cal rifles and proceeded to teach him how to shoot. I then bought a couple of 9 mm handguns and gifted him one. I tried everything to get my wife to go shooting with me. All that happened was she got more upset and reached the point of threatening divorce. When that came I said there is the door, I am not giving up guns unless you give up knitting and going to your knitting group twice a week. My going to the gun range twice a month provides the same stress relief as your knitting group does for you. Our son is an adult and makes his own decisions and wants to spend time with me shooting and I will do that. So you will be the one to explain to him why the divorce.

She did not leave and I never talked to her about guns again. I got the advice on how to deal with my wife from a lady Calgunner here.

That was 2 years ago. Since then she has come to learn that my guns are only dangerous to the paper targets and anyone that tries to harm her or our son.

Understand, when you first met, neither of you were into guns. For long term relationships to survive, both people have to accept that hobbies and interests change. One will take up new interests that the other does not have any interest in. Over time, the other might be drawn to try the new thing but the chances of that happening will be slim if you push it.

A few rules, a significant other is not the one to teach the GF/wife how to shoot. Emotions and egos get in the way. Many men think there is only one right or best way to do something. Many women do much better with a woman instructor. Look into Women on Target. My LGR holds women's only classes that have become very popular. Spouses and significant others are not allowed to be in viewing distance of the range.

For now, if she is okay with you shooting alone and having your guns at home, you are good. As she sees you are safe with them she may eventually ask for you to take her to the range.

My wife has come to the range a couple of times with me. She still has not shot, she brings her knitting and sits in a chair under a shade tree and knits. She likes being outside and does watch other women shooting. She has asked me questions and noticed the women's shooting classes. She has also started to tell me how stupid some of the proposed laws are because it does not stop criminals who do not care what the laws say. She has also watched me clean my guns many times and has seen how safe I am and heard me rant about the stupidity of people in the news who have an accident with an empty gun.

Accept that she may never be a shooter. If you want a GF or wife that is a shooter, you will have to leave her and find one that is. If this one is a keeper, she was not a shooter when you first met, so you cannot expect her to become one now just because you have.
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Firearms scare me. I find them exceedingly dangerous, I don't like the loud bang, and I hate the recoil of a handgun because it feels like it's going to jump out of my hand.

I tried taking a basic handgun class a couple of times, but quit during the field portion of the class because I was too scared. A very wise instructor saw my great fear and gently suggested I try his light rifle class. In the light rifle class we shot .22 caliber bolt action rifles, 50 rounds, loading only ONE ROUND AT A TIME. That I could handle.

I took the light rifle class over and over again for many months. Finally, one day, I didn't jump out of my skin anymore when I heard the bang. Then, one day, I decided I wanted my own rifle and bought a 10/22.

Personally, I find rifles a lot less intimidating than handguns. I do shoot handguns now, but still prefer rifles.

With a new firearm, I always start off one round at a time until I get a sense of what the firearm is like before I load a full magazine. It helps me feel in control. With the 9 mm handgun, for example, I had to do the one-round exercise over many visits to the range. It is a very S-L-O-W process for me, but I eventually get there.

I agree with what everyone else has said, especially the part about not forcing her.

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With a new firearm, I always start off one round at a time until I get a sense of what the firearm is like before I load a full magazine. It helps me feel in control.
This is also smart advice. I do this with any new firearm I get, no matter what it is, so I know exactly how it operates, recoils, etc.

Doesn't matter if it's a .22 or something much bigger, I always single load until I'm fully comfortable.
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A few rules, a significant other is not the one to teach the GF/wife how to shoot. Emotions and egos get in the way. Many men think there is only one right or best way to do something. Many women do much better with a woman instructor. Look into Women on Target. My LGR holds women's only classes that have become very popular. Spouses and significant others are not allowed to be in viewing distance of the range.
I have been with my girl for near to 6 1/2 years. She did not want firearms in the house when we moved in together, I told her tough luck, their coming with me or neither of us are coming.

What I will agree with you on is not to push. I never pushed, in fact I never even suggested it. Every once in awhile she would breach the topic with me like a, 'you would probably prefer that I learned how' sort of statement to which I would agree and then say nothing more.

Now here is where I disagree with you. I taught her / am teacher her how to shoot, and she has done well under my instruction if a bit slow going. I have a military background and I am patient about these sorts of things.

she was able to disassemble and assemble my 1911 for 6 months before she shot her first round in 22.

Shes still working her way up from 22 which is fine, we are currently exploring options regarding things like actual recoil vs felt recoil she tends to be a bit nervous with my 9, 40 and 45 (my thoughts are because of felt recoil) but has shot all the way up to 44mag and enjoyed it.

We went indoor, shes never fired a weapon in the light of day.

I am in the process of teaching a female friend as well, shes fired only indoor, fired all the way up to 30-06 and done just fine.

The truth is you have to take your time, dont push, be as patient as possible, even if it takes her 3 years to take interest and another 3 to get comfortable, take the time to move at her pace.
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Now here is where I disagree with you. I taught her / am teacher her how to shoot, and she has done well under my instruction if a bit slow going. I have a military background and I am patient about these sorts of things.

she was able to disassemble and assemble my 1911 for 6 months before she shot her first round in 22.

Shes still working her way up from 22 which is fine, we are currently exploring options regarding things like actual recoil vs felt recoil she tends to be a bit nervous with my 9, 40 and 45 (my thoughts are because of felt recoil) but has shot all the way up to 44mag and enjoyed it.

We went indoor, shes never fired a weapon in the light of day.

I am in the process of teaching a female friend as well, shes fired only indoor, fired all the way up to 30-06 and done just fine.

The truth is you have to take your time, dont push, be as patient as possible, even if it takes her 3 years to take interest and another 3 to get comfortable, take the time to move at her pace.
I am glad you teaching your GF is working out. Most of the times it does not. This does not just apply to firearms but to just about everything in life. It is human nature to have less patience when teaching someone that you have a significant emotional connection to, especially when they are not learning as fast as you think they should. It does not matter if it is wife teaching husband, husband teaching wife, parent teaching child, or whatever.

I am a teacher and have taught many different things in my life. The issues that arise come from both sides and how they are perceived by both.

As a teacher who has actually spent a lot of time learning how humans learn and what motivates people to learn long before I became a teacher, I also have a good understand how to teach in a way to make people want to learn more.

When learning a skill, the brain can only focus on 3 steps at most until they get transferred to permanent memory. Add that 4th and it interferes with the brain learning the other 3. Most significant others go too fast and cannot step back and make an unemotional assessment of what is going on to provide valuable feedback.

Most who have not had any training on how to teach but are highly analytical and linear thinkers fall into the trap of what does someone need to know about guns in order to shoot. So they teach the rules, the history of guns, how to clean guns, and all sorts of other information like it is some college class. After 3 months they then plan to actually shoot the gun. The first range trip is shooting 10 rounds of .22, with 10 minutes of instruction between each round and lots of critic about why they are not hitting the bullseye and the instructor showing off how well he can shoot.

Contrast that to how most parents teach their kids to shoot. They load up everything and go to the range. They might have a talk before the trip to explain what to expect, but know the child will likely forget most of it.

At the range they give the kid the ear protection why saying hear that loud noise, this is protects your ears from getting hurt by the loud noise and you have to wear it the whole time you are here. Then they give them the eye protection and give the same spiel about protecting the eyes.

At the firing line, dad pulls out the single shot Cricket while explaining why he kept the muzzle pointing down range all the time. He explains about the red line, and all the other rules. He knows his kid will not remember them all. When the cease fire is called, they walk together downrange to hang targets. Dad explains what they are doing and why it is okay now to go down range. Before going down range though, the chamber flag was inserted into the barrel and the bolt left open.

When the range is again hot, dad shows his kid how to load a round, how to use the sights, and then how to pull the trigger. Then dad shows how to eject the trigger and repeats two or 3 times. Then it is time for junior. Dad talks junior through the steps. There is no real concern about accuracy. Dad is happy if junior hits anywhere on the target. Dad talks junior through it again and again.

Soon dad has junior talk through a couple of the steps and only intervenes if something is missed. Soon junior is able to talk through all the steps.

If teaching gets to shooting quickly, under the guidance of a trainer, then the person has immediate fun and feedback. They are shooting. Now they have self-motivation to learn more to continue learning more. As they master each step they will want to learn what they are ready for next, cleaning, how different guns work, different calibers, etc. By being with a trainer, the rules are not just memorized, they are practiced and learned by doing. A routine is established. Once a routine is established, try breaking it, it is hard for people to break a routine.

At my LGR, I have seen women go from being timid and fearful even shooting a ,22 to shooting a .44 mag like a pro in 4 weeks after 4 2-hr women only classes. At that point, they can truly select a gun that works best for them in fitting their hands, meeting their comfort needs, using the caliber they want, and anything else they consider important.

I know that feeling. I have that gun already, that one gun you would keep if you had to give up all but one gun.
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You sound like a real dick. You had a rifle you didn't even notice was missing and immediately escalate things to threatening calling law enforcement on your inlaws? I'm sure mentions of divorce had much more to do than firearms.
I don't know OP, but you're jumping to a pretty big conclusion here. Perhaps father-in-law was refusing to hand over said firearm after OP politely asked for it. Perhaps father-in-law said, "No way in hell are you getting this firearm. Get the eff off my porch."

So you see, he might not have gone over there intending to be a dick, but sounds like things escalated. He easily could have punched the guy out. Instead, he used the threat of legal recourse. Perhaps it was the father-in-law that was being a dick?
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I don't know OP, but you're jumping to a pretty big conclusion here. Perhaps father-in-law was refusing to hand over said firearm after OP politely asked for it. Perhaps father-in-law said, "No way in hell are you getting this firearm. Get the eff off my porch."

So you see, he might not have gone over there intending to be a dick, but sounds like things escalated. He easily could have punched the guy out. Instead, he used the threat of legal recourse. Perhaps it was the father-in-law that was being a dick?
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My wife grew up in europe being told that guns create violence so I had a bit of a challenge to have her just HOLD a gun , but once she passed that hurdle I took her to the range and had her shoot a .22 pistol , she liked it and wanted to try a 9 so I loaded a single round in a sig p226 and when she fired it she felt safe because it would only go bang once , when she gained confidence I started loading two and so on , slow and always at HER pace .

Now she is an avid shooter and has a nice little collection of her own and she is the one always wanting to go to the range lol
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My wife grew up in europe being told that guns create violence so I had a bit of a challenge to have her just HOLD a gun , but once she passed that hurdle I took her to the range and had her shoot a .22 pistol , she liked it and wanted to try a 9 so I loaded a single round in a sig p226 and when she fired it she felt safe because it would only go bang once , when she gained confidence I started loading two and so on , slow and always at HER pace .

Now she is an avid shooter and has a nice little collection of her own and she is the one always wanting to go to the range lol
Good job turning her around.

Is she funneling this lifestyle back to the "homeland"?
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When I began to show interest, my husband bombarded me with questions and trying to encourage me to different pistols. Shopping was horrible, I knew nothing. But I quickly determined what I didn't like, which helped narrow the field. The "woman guns" like the shield and p238 didn't appeal to me and it's basically all anyone would recommend. Too much funny business on them. Too many steps, too many things to remember. The common mistake of thinking a "woman's gun" is the same as a "starter gun" is part of the problem couples might face.
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My wife was raised to be afraid of handguns - her father didn't want the kids to mess with his. She did not object to me having guns (former LEO) but showed zero interest in them. We'd been married about 23 years when a new indoor range opened up and started having monthly matches. I entered the first one and got hooked. About the third or fourth, she came to watch. She saw a bunch of guys and a few women shooting safely, and it made a good impression. I decided to get my CCW (I'd let it go when we lived in town that wouldn't issue, but we moved) and had no problem getting one. She took comfort in my carrying. Over time, I mentioned casually that if something bad happened and I was incapacitated, it might be wise for her to know how to use whatever I was carrying. That seed sprouted, and she decided that I should teach her to shoot. I explained that it would be much better to get another instructor, but she dug her heels in - me or nobody. So I taught her. She now owns three handguns, just renewed her permit and took an additional defensive pistol class.
For her first pistol, she wanted a Ruger LC-9. She liked the feel in her hand, but had never shot one. Huge mistake - it was painful for her to shoot. Three rounds and she was done. Grip sleeve didn't help enough. I realized that I needed to be extremely supportive, so I rented every 9mm the range had available - and she really liked the M&P 9c. So we bought one and sold the LC-9. I was carrying a G26, but wanted something slimmer for summer carry. I bought a Shield 9. She tried it, but still preferred her 9c. Then she got her permit, and suddenly wanted another try on the Shield. Fifty rounds later, she wanted one. Two weeks later, she got one for her birthday.
Then, while SSE was still in effect, I bought a RIA 9mm 1911 Tactical. I liked it so much that I wanted two more, so she and I SSE'd a pair together. Since she owned it, she figured she ought to try it out...and was amazed. She'd shot my 1911s in 45, but the 9mm is perfect for her. It's now her range favorite.
Now she thinks it's great when I order 5000 rounds of 9mm at a time. She asks "Is it enough?" and means it!
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IMO...

Be patient with her.

She's your fiance; so you owe it to her to have a heart-to-heart discussion to discuss her fears/concerns. Then, honestly try to address those concerns with her.

Do that by teaching/explaining/showing her the safety rules of shooting, the proper mechanical operation of the firearm, how firearms are cleaned and maintained, how to use safety equipment, going shooting with other couples, going to training classes together or visiting a women's shooting group, and there are lots of online resources. This will help show her the safe structure of your gun use/ownership.

The more familiar she becomes with firearms and the shooting sports world, the safer and more comfortable she will feel.
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My guess is that most of the Ladies here already had firearm exposure at some point in their lives. The question I have is for the Ladies that came around. You didn't like them but something made you change your mind. What was it that helped you shift over, to not be afraid. I got into firearms about 2 years ago, my fiancé however, wants no parts of it. I have attempted on different occasions to introduce her to the world of fire arms.
I'm fairly new (6 months). into the world of shooting. I grew up shooting a 22 with my dad, and skeet shooting with my ex but I haven't been interested for years, until last year when a group of girlfriends were sitting & talking about getting their CCW.

One friend took a basic firearm class, bought 2 firearms (shield & G26). And moved on with life, never heard from her about again, and she's never available for practice now that I'm into it.

I was contacted by another friend trying to fill spaces in her CCW class. I didn't really understand, and missed the class. Within a month I had a scary situation at my home, in which a "salesman" tried to enter my house. I was watching his approach, and his waiting on my front door via my security cams & front window, covered with a sun blocker screen so he couldn't see me, didn't know I was there & couldn't see me. He reached toward the door. And then stood back waiting, playing with his clipboard. And when I caught him, he gave me some bogus name & excuse, then left & disappeared down the street. There was no flyer on my door nob, so I suspect he as trying to enter. It shocked & scared me, so I called my CCW friend right away and asked her to schedule a class right away, and she did.

I've totally got the bug now. It's so much fun! And I LOVE the community, everyone is super nice & helpful. I'll admit, I have more than one gun, but so far keeping pace with the q 30 day rule. I go to the range 1-2x/month. I've been on the indoor rifle range sometimes, and dang it's loud in there. I use the amplified ear protection and have been told I can dial it down so the bang isn't so loud. The other thing, I really prefer off hours thus less wait, less people, less noise.

I'm taking as many classes as I can afford. Did a defensive handgun class last month in NV, returning this Sat for level 2. Taking another class mid-month, and found another local instructor to take more advanced classes with, like low light, and shooting from barricades. Being encouraged to do SDPS...want to do it all!

As to the OP's question, advice.
I really think there is benefit for a woman to discover the joy of shooting on her own, or with other ladies vs tagging along, or being encouraged/pushed by SO. Do you have a mutual female friend who can encourage her? Or...if you are near Sacramento, she is welcome to go with me or join my ladies group.

If you go to the range together, try off hours for a quieter, possibly less threatening environment.

Good luck!

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I'm fairly new (6 months). into the world of shooting. I grew up shooting a 22 with my dad, and skeet shooting with my ex but I haven't been interested for years, until last year when a group of girlfriends were sitting & talking about getting their CCW.

One friend took a basic firearm class, bought 2 firearms (shield & G26). And moved on with life, never heard from her about again, and she's never available for practice now that I'm into it.

I was contacted by another friend trying to fill spaces in her CCW class. I didn't really understand, and missed the class. Within a month I had a scary situation at my home, in which a "salesman" tried to enter my house. I was watching his approach, and his waiting on my front door via my security cams & front window, covered with a sun blocker screen so he couldn't see me, didn't know I was there & couldn't see me. He reached toward the door. And then stood back waiting, playing with his clipboard. And when I caught him, he gave me some bogus name & excuse, then left & disappeared down the street. There was no flyer on my door nob, so I suspect he as trying to enter. It shocked & scared me, so I called my CCW friend right away and asked her to schedule a class right away, and she did.

I've totally got the bug now. It's so much fun! And I LOVE the community, everyone is super nice & helpful. I'll admit, I have more than one gun, but so far keeping pace with the q 30 day rule. I go to the range 1-2x/month. I've been on the indoor rifle range sometimes, and dang it's loud in there. I use the amplified ear protection and have been told I can dial it down so the bang isn't so loud. The other thing, I really prefer off hours thus less wait, less people, less noise.

I'm taking as many classes as I can afford. Did a defensive handgun class last month in NV, returning this Sat for level 2. Taking another class mid-month, and found another local instructor to take more advanced classes with, like low light, and shooting from barricades. Being encouraged to do SDPS...want to do it all!

As to the OP's question, advice.
I really think there is benefit for a woman to discover the joy of shooting on her own, or with other ladies vs tagging along, or being encouraged/pushed by SO. Do you have a mutual female friend who can encourage her? Or...if you are near Sacramento, she is welcome to go with me or join my ladies group.

If you go to the range together, try off hours for a quieter, possibly less threatening environment.

Good luck!
I appreciate the invite but we're down south in the San Fernando Valley. We might have a mutual friend that I can reach out to. Thanks for the advice.
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My guess is that most of the Ladies here already had firearm exposure at some point in their lives. The question I have is for the Ladies that came around. You didn't like them but something made you change your mind. What was it that helped you shift over, to not be afraid. I got into firearms about 2 years ago, my fiancé however, wants no parts of it. I have attempted on different occasions to introduce her to the world of fire arms.

I've come from many angles, from a safety only session, the importance of the 2nd amendment, the importance of personal safety and also how it can also be a stress reliever. I once was able, by some miracle, to get her to a range. I rented her a .22lr handgun for less bang and less percussion. A gentleman in the lane next to us must have been blasting some .45acp. Needless to say, the noise and feel of the blast rattled her nerves and she left me to shoot alone (insert violin).

Is there any advice that the Ladies can give me, I would greatly appreciate it.
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My wife wants to shoot but, with 2 kids she won't pay for a baby sitter to go shooting with me. When I offer to watch the kids she has other things she would rather do.
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My wife is a realtor. Never seemed much into guns but certainly not anti in the slightest. After the 3rd news story of yet another realtor murdered/raped at a house showing she was all about getting CPL (concealed pistol license) and becoming a more proficient shooter.

Sometimes folks come around to a thing on their own accord. Sometimes patience is the best strategy.
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my dad hunted.
I had a rifle at age 8.
not into killing things but it was a bond with dad and I.

fast forward some years and I become a complete pacifist to the point that I decided I wouldn't even protect myself.

again, fast forward: birth of my daughter and I decided that I would kill anyone out to harm her and I would also kill anyone trying to harm me as I wanted to be the one to raise her and see her grown up. yes, the momma bear in me woke up!
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Just use it for an excuse to keep buying "her" guns till you find the right one...good way to check off your wanted to buy list with the idea of finding her the one she wants of course :D
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If you can find out if any of her friends are into shooting, it might help. Besides the sounds at a range, it is sometimes intimidating to be surrounded by a bunch of guys with guns.
There are a few ranges that hold women only classes and it is actually a lot of fun to go with a friend. It's less intimidating and it's a great community of women who want to be safe and protected.
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Im not affiliated with this group,but have heard wonderful reports from a couple ladies who were terrified of shooting and firearms before taking this 1day class.

I would suggest you make her a gift of this class along with a romantic evening after it concludes!

No one does a better job of relating to and teaching firearm safety and marksmanship than the NRA.
http://women.nra.org/womens-instruct...-near-you.aspx

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Im not affiliated with this group,but have heard wonderful reports from a couple ladies who were terrified of shooting and firearms before taking this 1day class.

I would suggest you make her a gift of this class along with a romantic evening after it concludes!

No one does a better job of relating to and teaching firearm safety and marksmanship than the NRA.
http://women.nra.org/womens-instruct...-near-you.aspx

definitely!!!!!!!!!
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Just use it for an excuse to keep buying "her" guns till you find the right one...good way to check off your wanted to buy list with the idea of finding her the one she wants of course :D
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I would be happy to work with her. I am a NRA firearms instructor. I am also a Well Armed Woman instructor. We are trained to train women. It is an awesome program. If I can be of any help to her or anyone, please contact me at (951)741-5326 or wellarmedglockgirl@gmail.com
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Remember this, women like pretty things, so next time get a pretty gun for her.

This may help when she ready once again, & indoor range kind of sucks for new shooters, too frickin loud.

When taking my wife to indoor range, she gets foam plugs followed by nice muffs.

Do an off day on BLM instead, you'll probably both enjoy it much better IMO.
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