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I find the whole concept of "weeding them out" works both ways.

As the girl, if I get a text message from a guy discussing finances prior to our first dinner date, especially a girl who has a child, who is most likely dating to settle down, why would I want to invest in a long-term relationship with someone who, at 35, still has financial concerns for a simple dinner date?

Now, for all we know she really had babysitting issues, but as others mentioned, plan the date within your means, yes. But no need to flaunt or stress your finances then and there either.

It's not gold digging to want someone who can meet your financial standards.