Bonnie, i'm not sure onequickshift was running on and on as much as relating an incident and what worked for another person that she personally knows.
i'm wondering if the OP's mother would benefit from some physical theraphy if she's not already receiving it for her hand/wrist issues.
"Her hands, her comfort, her confidence, her choice.", Mr K re buying a gun for a woman.
Gun Control: "The theory that a woman found dead in an alley, raped and strangled with her own pantyhose, is somehow morally superior to a woman explaining to police how her attacker got that fatal bullet wound."-- as seen on a t-shirt