anyone that has a CCW should be very very cautious about who is told re armed status...imo.
in your instance, i'd consider not carrying on those "impulsive" dates or [and i know how unrealistic this is, especially for someone in your age group whether male or female] not have dates that aren't of a more serious nature. either that or get a regular call girl that isn't going to flinch when she sees the holster. seriously.
the idea that a CCW person can have a casual sex life seems to be counter intuitive to me........
"Her hands, her comfort, her confidence, her choice.", Mr K re buy a gun for a woman.
Gun Control: "The theory that a woman found dead in an alley, raped and strangled with her own pantyhose, is somehow morally superior to a woman explaining to police how her attacker got that fatal bullet wound."-- as seen on a t-shirt