I edited the first post to include this quote
from Cornered Cat, which I just found and which fits really well:
Originally Posted by Kathy Jackson
"My husband bought me my first gun," says Jennie van Tuyl, a gun shop owner in Washington. "He tried to research which guns had smaller grips for me. We learned the hard way that one needs to be involved in the shopping for her own gun. I decided I needed a gun that fit my hand better and was easier to conceal."