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Old 07-26-2012, 3:33 PM
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Originally Posted by Untamed1972 View Post
You cannot change other people....only yourself. Standing up for yourself and being a man is something you do for yourself, not to try and change someone else.

It comes down to deciding for yourself how you deserve to be treated. If you're not getting what you need or want and there is no hope that you will. The choice is fairly simple.

But from what you described of her, there is no changing that.....unless she has some epiphany on her own and decides to seek help for herself.

and again says exactly what i would have written.


before you try and change someone else, remember how hard it is to change yourself. only she can decide if she needs to change and do the work to "make it so". after 5 years, well, change is not impossible but it is improbable. at least she's been upfront with you so now its up to you to make your decisions.

for a relationship it takes two people to make it work. at this point and according to what you've told us, you're the only one doing that work.
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