Just wanted to take a minute to say thanks and follow up with those of you who gave some great advice.
After talking with many people (including my wife) we decided that she should take an introductory firearms class before we go gun shopping. As such, we signed her up for a 'Firearms Primer' class at Valley Defense Consulting where she will have the opportunity to shoot a variety of different models under professional supervision (although I have taken many classes with them it was agreed on by all parties that I not be there to make her nervous.....or put in my 2 cents). LOL
Anyway, she is very excited now and telling all her friends that she is gonna go shoot the "45"! LOL
Hopefully all goes well and she will want to sign up for a full blown defensive handgun course this year!
Thanks again for everyones help!!!