you might want to check out stone cobra. he's posts his classes here on calguns and encourages women to take his 1 day basic pistol class. they're in sacramento valley shooting center too. i've never taken a class with them since i'm in socal la but read good after reviews about them.
after that or a similar class, you should take a class with her that has a live fire shoothouse so she'll get the feel of threat discrimination shoot/no shoot and definitely some type of low-light class with a handheld flashlight.
hope this helps out
just saw this post on some free classes for women. not sure how close manteca is to you.