it might not be in your price comfort range, but an excellent gun for small hands is the Springfield EMP.
most .380s will kick/muzzle flip pretty sharply because they are a blowback, rather than locked action
small framed revolvers usually aren't a good idea either as they take quite a bit of skill to handle the small frame and medium caliber.
you might want to take a look at a steel framed Kahr
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