poke around here in the Ladies Forum....older threads and you'll find a lot of info.
personally? i don't like a .380......after doing my own research when i was getting my first pistol i decided it wasn't for me.
you may want to check out: corneredcat.com
lots of great info.
what's important is that it fits your hand, that you like shooting it, that you have fun and will practice at a range with it.
so even if i don't like a .380 what's important is that you do! and the most important thing you've already voiced: better to have it and not have to use it.
and don't forget: it should also be fun! yes, fun!
again, welcome and do remember this: it can be addictive. there is no such thing as one purse, one pair of shoes, one ring, OR ONE PISTOL!
"Her hands, her comfort, her confidence, her choice.", Mr K re buy a gun for a woman.
Gun Control: "The theory that a woman found dead in an alley, raped and strangled with her own pantyhose, is somehow morally superior to a woman explaining to police how her attacker got that fatal bullet wound."-- as seen on a t-shirt