Regardless of gender I think initially people tend to want to lean back to be away from the gun.
I have a forward stance with my feet slightly in a "figher" position. I also watched the Make Ready with Jesse Abbate (Duff) many times and I like what she says.
Last week I shot a small 3 gun stage and after watching the video I realized I need to be more aggressive.
‘‘Laws that forbid the carrying of arms... disarm only those who are neither inclined nor determined to commit crimes... Such laws make things worse for the assaulted and better for the assailants; they serve rather to encourage than to prevent homicides, for an unarmed man may be attacked with greater confidence than an armed man.’’ ~ Jefferson